The Marriage Ref: Whoorl Edition

Here’s a poll for you. Please vote! Do it for the Whoorl family!

The key details:

Husband is at a Masters viewing party in the neighborhood.

Husband texts saying he will be home when the tournament is over.

Husband returns home one hour and thirty minutes after the tournament ends.

Wife is thoroughly annoyed.

Husband thinks wife is being “ridiculous” by requesting that he send her a quick text at some point letting her know that he will be late.

Question: Is it “ridiculous” that wife requests a text update when husband is running over an hour late?

  1. Jammer

    April 12, 2010 at 10:09 am

    hahaha I love how you clocked him. It’s really his fault for narrowing his scope to such a specific time frame – My dad always gives himself an 1 hour or so of wiggle room, so the wife is pleasantly surprised if he manages to actually leave when he originally intended.
    .-= Jammer´s last blog ..In need of some good eats! =-.

  2. MrsJ

    April 12, 2010 at 10:14 am

    If I had a dollar for every time Mr. J. and I have had this EXACT conversation? Well, I’d have a lot of dollars.

  3. Melissa

    April 12, 2010 at 10:21 am

    My husband once told me he’d be home by 4. At 4 I called him and he was still over two hours away, sitting at a bar. Never mind that I planned my whole day around his arrival just to avoid taking 3 small children to the grocery store. This now meant I had to wait until he got home at EIGHT PM to go grocery shopping. And then of course he was passed out when I got home and didn’t help me with the groceries. He knows now that if he’s not WALKING THROUGH THE DOOR at the time he said he would be, he has to let me know. It’s just COMMON COURTESY. If Tiger has time to text, D has a minute to spare to say “I’m going to hang out for a while.”
    .-= Melissa´s last blog ..We won’t even discuss a full marathon because if I ever need to get anywhere 26.2 miles away, I’ll DRIVE. =-.

  4. Christina

    April 12, 2010 at 10:30 am

    So glad to hear it’s not just me that feels this way!

  5. Kristabella

    April 12, 2010 at 10:51 am

    In D’s defense, the best part of the Master’s is watching the donning of the green jacket, etc.

    But with that said, that didn’t take 90 minutes.
    .-= Kristabella´s last blog ..Walk Away The Pounds =-.

  6. abbersnail

    April 12, 2010 at 10:51 am

    One of the very top five things I value about the Horse Whisperer is that he generally does what he says he is going to do, including arriving places at a predetermined time. Because of this, when he is late and doesn’t let me know, I’m generally understanding. If, however, this were chronic behavior, HEADS WOULD ROLL.

    Also, if I were pregnant and home alone with a toddler, I would freak the eff out if he were that late. Period.
    .-= abbersnail´s last blog ..Ell Oh Ell, friends. Ell Oh Ell. =-.

  7. Haley

    April 12, 2010 at 11:20 am

    Let’s hope he talked about how touching Phil M. was when he talked about his amazing wife…

  8. Nita

    April 12, 2010 at 11:23 am

    Replace “Masters” with “video game tournament” and this is my life. It has taken 9+ yrs but now he knows.

    And really, especially if you had planned dinner or anything, totally uncalled for. It isn’t that a much needed break wasn’t warranted, it was lack of respect for not letting you know he was going to be late. Boo!

    Of course – this is a purely hypothetical situation – right? :)
    .-= Nita´s last blog ..Messing Around. =-.

  9. Amy --- Just A Titch

    April 12, 2010 at 11:25 am

    I mean, yeah, I’m a little psycho, but I HATE lateness because I am an extreme worry wart. Plus, it takes 10 seconds to text me & give an update. I voted no.

  10. lisset

    April 12, 2010 at 11:35 am

    i am so completely on your side. the number of times this exact subject has come up in our house is too high to count.

  11. newMOM

    April 12, 2010 at 12:26 pm

    OMG we had the EXACT argument yesterday! only it was related to a hockey game. I feel your pain.

  12. Mama Bub

    April 12, 2010 at 12:45 pm

    We have this same argument, only it’s over time he reported he would leave work vs. time he actually leaves. Dude, either answer is fine, just let me manage my expectations.
    .-= Mama Bub´s last blog ..Team Why Mommy’s Virtual Science Fair =-.

  13. Hip Hip Gin Gin

    April 12, 2010 at 1:36 pm

    It really takes no time at all to text someone an update, but it takes years off my life worrying that something has happened. Maybe I’m just an old lady in training but the words “dead in a ditch” always start swimming around my head. Not cool.

    We have had this fight a couple of times, he is now aware that I don’t hold anything for people who don’t tell me they are late. If you tell me you’ll be home at 6 unless otherwise notified dinner is at 6:02. If you miss it, that’s your problem. Cuz I’m ridiculous like that!

    And dude, if I was pregnant AND had a little one at home…hooo boy…..Joe Crawford got it right “nuclear terror”.
    .-= Hip Hip Gin Gin´s last blog ..Simple Pleasures: Magnolia Trees =-.

  14. TJ

    April 12, 2010 at 1:39 pm

    It’s generally irritating when one has to plan or already has plans (i.e. “Am I gonna include you in dinner plans or are you just gonna fend for yourself?” However, all bets are off when you’re pregnant and taking care of a toddler. Rules tend to be in your favor.

  15. tracey

    April 12, 2010 at 1:46 pm

    this made me legit laugh out loud. i have been in this situation many a time. i don’t know who should have learned their lesson by now-me or him. good luck!