The Marriage Ref: Whoorl Edition

Here’s a poll for you. Please vote! Do it for the Whoorl family!

The key details:

Husband is at a Masters viewing party in the neighborhood.

Husband texts saying he will be home when the tournament is over.

Husband returns home one hour and thirty minutes after the tournament ends.

Wife is thoroughly annoyed.

Husband thinks wife is being “ridiculous” by requesting that he send her a quick text at some point letting her know that he will be late.

Question: Is it “ridiculous” that wife requests a text update when husband is running over an hour late?

  1. Angella

    April 12, 2010 at 8:51 am

    I love you guys.
    .-= Angella´s last blog ..Just ‘Cuz =-.

  2. andrea

    April 12, 2010 at 8:54 am

    Glad I am not the only one with a husband that doesn’t understand this. How hard is it to text to say you are running late?!?

  3. Heather

    April 12, 2010 at 9:02 am

    Yes, husband owes you that courtesy. Especially since said wife is home with preschooler and also pregnant. I will never get why men do not get this. It’s like our time is not as valuable.

  4. txelz

    April 12, 2010 at 9:05 am

    Running late text is expected. Running late text and chocolate treat/flowers expected when said wife is pregnant at home with toddler.
    .-= txelz´s last blog ..Another Texas Tour in Pictures =-.

  5. Annika

    April 12, 2010 at 9:20 am

    If it were not in the neighborhood, 1.5 hours sounds pretty reasonable. Since it was in the neighborhood, it seems a bit much. So I voted no, but it’s juuuuust on the edge for me.
    .-= Annika´s last blog ..Etsy Shop =-.

  6. Helen Jane

    April 12, 2010 at 9:21 am

    As the person who usually runs late and forgets to text — I know it’s my fault.

    Thank you for reminding me that it affects my husband too!
    .-= Helen Jane´s last blog ..Helpie Selfie =-.

  7. Joe Crawford

    April 12, 2010 at 9:21 am

    My answer doesn’t fit in the poll. Basically both answers are right. He was inconsiderate to not notify of lateness. But let it slide this time. But tell him that in future if lateness is not notified about via txt or phone, nuclear terror will result. It’s not cool to set an expectations and then ignore them. Particularly with a little one and being pregnant and all.

    Again: nuclear terror.

    And of course, this rule works both ways, so how you treat it will be how he gets to treat it in future. Though he doesn’t get to carry a baby. :-)

  8. slynnro

    April 12, 2010 at 9:28 am

    Depends on the sitch, but A and I have this fight every Friday. He has a work happy hour, I get home at 5. He says he’ll pick me up for dinner at 6:15 and I am still tapping my toe at 7:30. RAGE.
    .-= slynnro´s last blog ..Fancy-pants-er-ish. =-.

  9. marymuses

    April 12, 2010 at 9:30 am

    If it were just you at home, then it would be no big deal for him to be late and not let you know, but being at home with a toddler changes everything. It is only reasonable to want to know when your husband will be home when he is your relief from toddlerville.

  10. Danielle (elleinadspir)

    April 12, 2010 at 9:31 am

    I’d want the text….but after my post today on sleeping routines…I’m not sure I’m the best person to ask on marraige issues. I think I’m getting more than I give these days!

  11. L

    April 12, 2010 at 9:37 am

    I voted for sending the text. But I can understand how conversation keeps flowing even after an event is over, and you keep thinking you’ll be leaving soon . . then suddenly an hour has gone by. So I understand why he didn’t send the text, but I understand why you’re annoyed. I would’ve been annoyed, too.

  12. Rebecca (Bearca)

    April 12, 2010 at 9:47 am

    You are so in the right on this one. Sorry, D…
    .-= Rebecca (Bearca)´s last blog ..I can’t believe I’m posting this =-.

  13. RA

    April 12, 2010 at 10:00 am

    I’m a little conflicted only because “when the tournament is over” includes 90 minutes after the fact. Like, the tournament is still over now, a day later, you know?

    However, I don’t think that was the intent of the agreement, hence my vote for No.
    .-= RA´s last blog ..Project Sugar Cookie: Attempt #3 =-.

  14. Jamie

    April 12, 2010 at 10:03 am

    Dude, don’t hate me, but TECHNICALLY speaking, you cannot wage marital warfare unless there was a pre-determined time frame (30 minutes, 60 minutes, etc.) of reasonable “return expectations.” The word “after” is incredibly vague, and if there was no shared expectation of an arrival time, then he gets off on a technicality. Late cannot be defined without shared expectations of what defines punctual.

    People in my life tell me I should have become a lawyer, but I just don’t see it. ;)

    That said, how freakin hard is it to just send a damn text?!
    .-= Jamie´s last blog ..Friday Randomness =-.

  15. Ariel

    April 12, 2010 at 10:07 am

    Have you ever seen Amelie? If you haven’t, you should.
    There is a part in the movie where the boy is late, and her imagination leads to her thinking he’s been abducted by terrorists.
    This is me. This is why he must call if he’s going to be late.
    My brain says he hasn’t called, he’s dead. Never mind that my brain is a wee bit crazy, it would have taken you 2 seconds to diffuse the crazy.

    Courtesy between spouses is even more important than courtesy between strangers.
    .-= Ariel´s last blog ..Multimedia message =-.