The Countdown

I return to work 2 weeks from tomorrow. Yikes.

D told me it’s ultimately my decision as to whether or not I stay home.

More on this tomorrow, baby’s hungry.

  1. kate

    November 12, 2006 at 7:17 pm

    my husband left it up to me as well and i chose to slowly wind down my business to stay home with our now 17 mo old. unfortunately the nature of my business made it toooo chaotic to do both with bebe in tow at all times. i tried. i have moments when i really miss having my own world to get immersed in BUT i know that being with him was a luxury that i wanted to take advantage of…. you will figure out what is right for you!! best to you and the little cute one.
    kate friend of saj

  2. gorillabuns

    November 12, 2006 at 8:42 pm

    you know what i’ll say….but only you can make this decision without influence.

  3. Alicat

    November 12, 2006 at 8:53 pm

    girl, I think you should stay home. :O)

  4. Alissa

    November 13, 2006 at 12:36 am

    My husband was the same. We weighed up pros and cons then I decided to quit work. I told my employer that I was quitting about 2 weeks before I was supposed to have returned. They really want me to stay so now I am on a ‘career break’ for up to 4 years. If you do want to return in the future maybe your employer would offer some sort of similar arrangement. By the way my husband is a real doll as we have to pay back $20K which is my maternity pay.

  5. trish

    November 13, 2006 at 2:38 am

    wow — I’m in a country where maternity leave stretches to a year (6 months paid) and I’m guessing that makes it easier to go back to work… My boy is almost 5 months and I’m starting to miss the office, so I’ll be going back parttime, but not for two more months. Would that be an option?

  6. Jessie

    November 13, 2006 at 4:33 am

    I hope you get to do whatever it is you want to. That’s a big decision.

  7. BeachMama

    November 13, 2006 at 6:45 am

    You have a big decision to make. It is not easy doing either. Thankfully here in Canada we get a year of mat. leave to help us make that decision. For what it’s worth, I stay home, I love it, some days are really hard, others are really easy. I wouldn’t trade this time we have together for anything in the world.

  8. Anne Glamore

    November 13, 2006 at 7:49 am

    I’ve done fulltime, part-time and stay-at-home and each has positives and negatives. You may have to try it out and see if you’re happier having somewhere “adult” to go everyday or if you’re missing the baby too much. Part-time always made me feel like a half-assed mom and worker.

    It’s a very personal decision and you’ll feel in your gut what the best one is for you. Good luck.

  9. Heather

    November 13, 2006 at 9:39 am

    So what is it you do? What would you do with A if you go back to work? Are you still breastfeeding?

  10. Jennifer

    November 13, 2006 at 10:04 am

    Good luck with the transition. My husband didn’t really give me a choice, but I completely agreed with his decision that we both stayed home (he worked from home at the time). When my friends gave me a hard time about leaving work I told them I just wasn’t comfortable with some other woman watching my baby while my husband was home with her :P

    Are you considering being a SAHM?

  11. Mrs. S

    November 13, 2006 at 11:59 am

    I have no idea about your situation or circumstances, but I know that if my husband said “okay – you can stay home or not, your choice – pick” that I’d say “HOME!!!!” in a heartbeat. Then again, Zoe is still not quite 2 weeks old, so maybe I’d change my toon in a few more weeks.

    Either way, hope you’re super-happy with whatever you choose, and hope you keep blogging… I need you to warn me of the upcoming craziness!!

  12. Susie

    November 13, 2006 at 4:21 pm

    I know you know all this already, but I think it bears repeating…

    The only right answer to this equation is whatever works for you and your family. Anders will thrive whether you stay at home with him, work part-time out of the home, or go back full-time. All that matters (assuming you can keep your heads above water financially) is that you are happy.

    Whatever you do decide, remember that you can always change your mind — these decisions are not irrevocable.

    Good luck and hope you’re feeling better!

  13. Jessica

    November 13, 2006 at 6:01 pm

    To quote Chandler Bing in Friends… “Things just got interesting…”

    Good luck with your choice. Remember that your choice right now doesn’t make it a permanent solution. Motherhood is flexible, and if you choose one thing now, you can always change it at a later point if you find you and Anders need it.

  14. Lyndsay

    November 13, 2006 at 12:57 pm

    I feel your pain. I go back December 6 and feel like it is a death sentence hanging over my head.