Sweet baby Thalon. The fair, red-headed boy amidst the sea of princess tiaras and Barbie dolls. The perfect representation of Gorillabuns’ Irish roots. Rich’s future partner-in-crime.

Thalon passed away yesterday afternoon surrounded by his adoring family.

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention wanting to punch the universe in the mouth right now. Really hard.

For those of you who have had the pleasure of meeting Shana in real life, you know she is quite the Mama Bear. Long before she birthed her three beautiful children, she was the kind of friend that would fight dragons tooth and nail for you. Fiercely protective. Loyal. She might even throw a Cape Cod in the face of your nemesis. You know, the kind of person you always want on your side.

However, behind that boisterous Mama Bear exterior lies the most enormous, the most feeling heart you could ever encounter. In all honesty, she’s a total sap.

I distinctly remember shortly after Moira’s birth, beached out on her couch with my own pregnant belly, talking about what an independent spirit her firstborn was. “Little Miss Thing (as she would call Celia) sure isn’t into the whole cuddling and hugging bit”. I remember nodding, thinking that Celia was a smart little girl because, well, touchy-feely people are STRANGE. Just at that moment, Celia sauntered over to Shana and gave her a huge bear hug, and as I looked over at my favorite fierce Mama Bear, I saw tears welling up in her eyes.

I remember hoping I could be a mother like that one day. One who cares so deeply about her babies that the simple act of a day-to-day hug could fill them with so much love that the tears flow.

I can’t begin to fathom what Shana, Rich and the girls are going through right now. To be honest, I won’t even allow myself to envision losing my child. What I do know is that they need all the positive thoughts and prayers that you can give them right now. Shana is so thankful for all of your love and concern – it has lifted her spirits tremendously.

I’ve been trying to think of what I can do right now, 1,400 miles away, to help before heading to Oklahoma. I’ve set up a Paypal donation button for anyone who wants to help Shana’s family with the expenses of Thalon’s hospital stay and funeral services. Please feel free to use the button on your website to help spread the word.

Donations would be greatly appreciated, but your thoughts and prayers are just as welcome.

  1. Marinka

    April 13, 2009 at 7:56 am

    So unfair. So heartbreaking. My thoughts are with Shana and her family.

  2. veep veep

    April 13, 2009 at 7:59 am

    so very awful

  3. Caroline

    April 13, 2009 at 8:01 am

    Oh no. My heart breaks for this family. What a horrible, unbearable loss. Please pass on my deepest deepest condolences.

  4. Carrisa

    April 13, 2009 at 8:02 am

    Thank you so much for doing this. My heart is so broken for her.

  5. Nothing But Bonfires

    April 13, 2009 at 8:05 am

    Oh NO. NO NO NO. I was thinking about this all weekend and hoping against hope that everything would be okay. It feels like a punch in the gut to know this happened. Poor, poor Shana. I cannot even imagine.

  6. katie ~ motherbumper

    April 13, 2009 at 8:06 am

    So sad, so unfair, and such a huge loss. I’m so sorry and my thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family.

  7. Metalia

    April 13, 2009 at 8:08 am

    This is such a beautiful tribute, Sarah. I’m sitting here reading it through my tears. My heart breaks for Shana and her family.

  8. Jora

    April 13, 2009 at 8:12 am

    My heart, too, is broken over Baby Thalon.

  9. Angela

    April 13, 2009 at 8:12 am

    Such beautiful words to describe such a fabulous woman. My heart has now officially broken. Thoughts and prayers. Thoughts and prayers. Lots of tears.

  10. Manda

    April 13, 2009 at 8:21 am

    I hate this so much. My prayers are with Shana and her family.

  11. BeachMama

    April 13, 2009 at 8:26 am

    Oh Whoorl, take my Prayers with you to OK. I have been praying for sweet Thalon and cannot even imagine the pain Shana and her family is going through. Your tribute is beautiful.

  12. Mandee

    April 13, 2009 at 8:26 am

    Thanks for keeping us informed. The universe is most definitely on a roll. I got a call from my mom on Saturday afternoon that one of her best friends and a second mother to me was found dead in her bed on Saturday morning. I am a little comforted to know that a fabulous mother has joined these precious babies, but that only takes me so far.

    Lots of love and prayers for all those who loved sweet Thalon.

  13. punchlinewalking

    April 13, 2009 at 8:28 am

    Thanks for setting up the paypal…I’m going to link it on my page too.

  14. Half Assed Kitchen

    April 13, 2009 at 8:28 am

    Sending my thoughts to that family. I cannot even imagine their loss.

  15. Nic

    April 13, 2009 at 8:29 am

    This is a lovely tribute to your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.