A New Baby — First Time vs. Second Time

First Time:

Breastfeeding is done in the privacy of my bedroom – complete with a perfectly-placed My Brest Friend pillow, a brand new pink Bravado nursing tank and an online breastfeeding log.

Second Time:

Breastfeeding is done at my kitchen table – baby is in a one-armed cradle hold while I eat a Chipotle Carnitas bowl while donning a ratty, stained tee pulled up to my shoulders.

First Time:

A week after delivery, I’m physically feeling a little pep in my step.

Second Time:

A week after delivery, I feel as though my pelvic floor will fall out of my body if I so much as sneeze.

First Time:

Completely sleep deprived and exhausted.

Second Time:

Completely sleep deprived and exhausted with a three-year-old who is most decidedly NOT sleep deprived and exhausted.

First Time:

Could spend hours staring at my sweet, sleeping baby.

Second Time:

Yeah. That one pretty much hasn’t changed.

(Looking at Wito’s newborn photos, it’s uncanny how much these two resemble each other. Siblings FTW!)

What about you? What am I forgetting, first time/second time-wise?

  • Angella

    July 5, 2010 at 9:40 am

    Can’t answer the question – too busy sighing over the beautiful sleeping babies.
    .-= Angella´s last blog ..There’s A Hole In My Heart =-.

  • andrea

    July 5, 2010 at 9:52 am

    Darling! The second time around is a trip. It is amazing how anal I was about everything with Charlie and with Lu things just happened and eventually everything fell into a pretty laid back pace.

  • Jammer

    July 5, 2010 at 9:53 am

    they look like the same baby! and, so quiet but for some reason I think the quiet thing could be misleading…
    .-= Jammer´s last blog ..Flashbacks and JELL-O =-.

  • jora

    July 5, 2010 at 9:56 am

    First Time: consulting The Baby Book over each and every hiccup, sneeze, poop, etc.

    Second Time: lucky to make it to the Well Baby appointments on time.
    .-= jora´s last blog ..Please Meet My FriendRomesco =-.

  • Trinity(of haiku tofu)

    July 5, 2010 at 10:00 am

    They look so much alike! Aww, a little girl who is as cute as Wito? That’s gonna be too much!
    .-= Trinity(of haiku tofu)´s last blog ..Red Coconut Curry with Tangy Tempeh =-.

  • Melissa

    July 5, 2010 at 10:08 am

    Yep, it’s crazy with two, but it’s also very very awesome. For me, the newborn part was SO much easier in a lot of ways compared to dealing with a 3-yr old!

    First time around: baby was on a by-the-book sleeping schedule.

    Second time around: schedule? sleep? Oh shit, hang on while I get your older brother out of the spice cupboard…

    Enjoy those two beautiful children, there’s nothing like watching your kids discover each other and start interacting!

  • emily bilbrey

    July 5, 2010 at 10:09 am

    beautiful! her hairline is amazing – such lovely intricate swirls!

    i already know that if i have a second baby, things will be different next time. they have to be! i think it’s pretty inevitable. i love the comparisons you made in this post – can’t wait to hear more of your story as a mama of two (and of course, to see more photos of your lovely new girl!)


    Actually, the first photo is of Wito!

    .-= emily bilbrey´s last blog ..wordless wednesday- number twenty-five arriving soon – uff da 20- =-.

  • Mama Bub

    July 5, 2010 at 10:10 am

    How is it that the three year old is SO MUCH HARDER than the newborn?! Makes me wonder why I ever thought this was so hard the first time around.

    And the sneeze fear, I hear you loud and clear. Four weeks later I’m still a little bit afraid.
    .-= Mama Bub´s last blog ..The Fourth- Three Times =-.

  • Danielle (elleinadspir)

    July 5, 2010 at 10:45 am

    We were looking at pics last night and B commented how much she looks like Wito. So cute!!
    .-= Danielle (elleinadspir)´s last blog ..Food Glorious Food – Part 12 Okie Caviar =-.

  • SAJ

    July 5, 2010 at 10:53 am

    Wow. They do look alike. Disregard my “She looks like D!” comment earlier. Shows you what I know.

    She looks so darling and sweet. Deep sighs of envy over here :)
    .-= SAJ´s last blog ..15 minute post =-.

  • Rachel Shingleton

    July 5, 2010 at 11:26 am

    Sweet little baby girl! I love it!

    Hmm, no advice here as we are still in the only-child era. My sincere hope is that I will be so much calmer the second time around in everything. I was such a spazz from the second I peed on a stick til he turned 6 months old.

  • Tina

    July 5, 2010 at 11:54 am

    I’ve got just one…who is 3, so I cannot imagine juggling another one while dealing with all his energy. She really is a beautiful little bambino. Would love to know how to pronounce her name? Did I miss that answer?
    Hope you are getting rest and feeling well.

    Her name is pronounced ‘muh-LOO’. :)

  • Kim

    July 5, 2010 at 12:33 pm

    The first time: The first year seemed/felt like it was never going to end.

    The second time: Where the hell did the first year go????

  • Elyse

    July 5, 2010 at 1:17 pm

    The breastfeeding one cracked me up! It is so true.
    How about:

    First Time: Dress to go out in full makeup and cute outfit so no one will think that you are anything less than SuperMom.

    Second time: Big props to whoever invented black yoga pants. The mom uniform you can sleep, workout, and run errands in.

  • bethany actually

    July 5, 2010 at 1:22 pm

    I already feel like my pelvic floor might fall out with every sneeze, and I’m only 18 weeks along. :-) She really does look like Wito!
    .-= bethany actually´s last blog ..Happy 4th of July- =-.

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