1 Month Update (With Bonus Assvice!)

Happy 1 month birthday, Whoorlita! You are such a sweet little baby.

(On the eve of her birthday. She has enormous eyes just like her brother!)

Things I’ve learned (or re-learned) about new babies that I desperately feel the need to share with you:

1. Breastfeeding – Engorged boobs are ridiculously huge and hard. Letdown can be painful. Be sure to wear pads at all times for you can never predict when letdown will occur, especially in public places. Taking Lethicin daily can help prevent plugged ducts. Your nipples might kill. Don’t believe the experts that say your nipples shouldn’t hurt after the first week. Believe you me, I don’t have thrush and Wita’s latch is great (confirmed by the greatest lactation consultant ever – if you are looking for one in the OC area shoot me an email), but I STILL wince when she starts to nurse. Some people are more sensitive than others and that’s just how the cookie crumbles.

You are probably going to feel like the baby is attached to your body all the time. In fact, just last night, I looked down from my second-story bedroom window at my husband and son having a great time outside with all the neighbors. I felt a little like Rapunzel, locked up in my tower. It’s worth it, though! (Plus, that’s why cute nursing covers were created!) Nothing’s better than seeing your baby chub up before your very eyes and know your Very Painful Nipples played an integral part.

You are going to feel frumpy – most likely stuck in between your maternity clothes and your regular clothes. Yes, it sucks. I personally do not belong to the Breastfeeding Makes Me So Skinny Camp. With Wito, I didn’t lose the last 5 or so pounds until I stopped breastfeeding. Your body needs to keep an extra layer of fat to help produce all that milk you are feeding your baby. Don’t sweat it, mamas!

2. Sleeping – To parents of more than one child, if you are lucky enough to get all children napping at the same time, for the love of Christ, TAKE A NAP. Sure, your online pursuits and domestic duties are going to suffer, but honestly, no one really cares. Get some sleep while you can! (I am assuming all parents with only one child are napping already. Right? RIGHT?)

Newborns make all sorts of crazy grunting noises while sleeping – don’t assume they are waking up and/or need to be picked up. Most likely, they are just being insanely loud sleepers. If I could get back all the minutes I spent this month staring at Wita and wondering if she was going to wake up at that very moment, I could spend two full weeks drinking fruity cocktails in Bora Bora. I find that a white noise machine helps me to sleep through all of the racket.

Accept the fact that you are not going to get a full night’s sleep for awhile. Even if your significant other does the night feedings, you will still need to wake up to pump in order to keep your boobs from becoming rock hard torpedoes. Sexy! (If you are breastfeeding, that is. If your baby is formula fed and you aren’t doing the night feedings, well, ENJOY YOUR LENGTHY AND RESTFUL SLEEP, DAMMIT.)

(Sorry, that’s the sleep deprivation talking.)

3. Words With Friends makes 3am feedings infinitely better.

4. It’s so tempting to wish for the newborn phase to fly by, but try to revel in the little things that will soon be a distant memory. It won’t be long before your little one won’t curl up on your chest and snooze for hours. Smell their precious tiny heads on a daily basis! Before you know it, the lingering scent will most likely be grungy toddler sweat. Awesome.

Hmmm. What am I forgetting? Did anything surprise you about parenting newborns?

  • Kaleigha

    July 27, 2010 at 11:09 am

    Hi Wita!

    Glad things are going well, apart from the nipples.:)
    .-= Kaleigha´s last blog ..OOTD 072710 and Giveaway winner! =-.

  • Rhi

    July 27, 2010 at 11:09 am

    She’s such a doll!

    Also, I was up with the Wedding Crazies at 3 a.m. and Words With Friends definitely made it all better. Though I always imagine I’m waking someone up when I make a move.

  • Kristin

    July 27, 2010 at 11:18 am

    Wow! Cute-NESS!

  • estelle

    July 27, 2010 at 11:26 am

    She is so beautiful. Those eyes are amazing.

    I remember wanting to sleep at all times and then as soon as Emerson would go down for a nap I would start missing her desperately and just stare at her. Sick, sick, sick.

  • Candi

    July 27, 2010 at 11:45 am

    She is perfect…her eyes are gorgeous :)

    Wish I had an iPad back when I was nursing, my youngest is almost 6! Instead I was watching reruns of Roseanne on Nick at Nite, lol! I did a search for Whoorl on Words with Friends and it automatically started a new game…let’s play if you’d like! I go through spurts playing. My username is Candisueg.
    .-= Candi´s last blog ..Celebrating 50 years at our church =-.

  • Nancy [Fear and Parenting in Las Vegas]

    July 27, 2010 at 12:20 pm

    She’s absolutely adorable.

    The one thing I would add is to be prepared for your first child to imitate you breastfeeding a baby (regardless of the gender of the child), so it’s a good idea to have a baby doll on hand…and a camera as well. It’s too cute!

    Ha! Nancy, Wito is OBSESSED with watching me pump. The whole pump contraption blows his mind. ;)

  • emily bilbrey

    July 27, 2010 at 12:36 pm

    BEAUTIFUL. BABY. GIRL. holy smokes HER EYES!!! love love love. she is gorgeous. can’t believe a month has gone by since i saw your happy news!

    this is great advice. and for the record? i lost 7 pounds almost immediately AFTER weaning. i wish i could have relaxed a little more about my postpartum body but i struggled with the in-between phase. i think if i have another baby i’ll be more chill (which is obviously par for the course for most people!) ;D

    i also had incredibly sensitive nipply bits NO MATTER what i did, in fact to this day (since having a baby & breastfeeding for 8 months) my bewbs are still loads more sensitive than they ever were before. what the heck? ah, motherhood!

    seriously, great post and amazing, stunning daughter you made there! congrats & cheers to ye!
    .-= emily bilbrey´s last blog ..pooksville photo craft tutortial- upcycled sweater hats! =-.

  • sizzle

    July 27, 2010 at 12:36 pm

    She’s super cute. I expect nothing less though given how hot you and D are. ;-)

    I’m on Words with Friends if you ever want to play! (“sizzlesays”)
    .-= sizzle´s last blog ..Best for the Best =-.

  • kate

    July 27, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    Whoa! Missed the whole “Whoorl gives birth” thing!! (your blog isn’t showing updates on my bloglines for some reason…) Anyway: yay!!! Congratulations! She is gorgeous…in fact I think I just “let down” and I haven’t nursed for almost 7 years. ;)

  • Lindsey

    July 27, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    My husband and I are slowly preparing for number #2 in February…part of me feels VERY prepared but part of me is terrified its going to be just like #1..but harder…because there will be a 3 year old present lol

    I have to agree with another commenter…we have iPad’s now and Netflix…I think the middle of the night baby dramafests will be a bit more tolerable with instant access to movies and tv shows!

    Good luck heading into month two!
    .-= Lindsey´s last blog ..Hi Im Socially Awkward! =-.

  • Rebecca (Bearca)

    July 27, 2010 at 12:40 pm

    I forgot how teeny tiny newborns are, especially when compared to your SUDDENLY NOW ENORMOUS AND GIGANTIC older child. That was a shock!
    .-= Rebecca (Bearca)´s last blog ..I cant believe Im posting this =-.

  • kakaty

    July 27, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    she looks just like you!

    I, too, forgot the akwardness and pain of nursing a newborn. I nursed my girl until she was 17 months so I figured this time around it would be easy. I wasn’t thinking of the fact that nursing a newborn and a toddler are way different! I’m happy to report that now, at 3 1/2 months, the little guy is a champ at nursing and I can discretly and painlessly feed him just about anywhere.

    Last time I played a million middle of the night games of solitaire on my iPod. This time, nursing with an iPhone is so much more enjoyable! (However, typing tweets left handed while nursing leads to lots of typos!)

    Congrats to surviving the first month as a parent of 2!

  • Kerri Anne

    July 27, 2010 at 12:43 pm

    Your Rapunzel analogy reminded me that I recently saw a movie preview for a Rapunzel-inspired (animated) movie, wherein I realized I have a strange phobia about Super Long (Animated) Hair that moves and bends and twists as if it’s alive. * shudder *

    Happy! first month to your lovely little one.
    .-= Kerri Anne´s last blog ..Weekend Update- And They Call It Coastal Love Edition =-.

  • Jillian

    July 27, 2010 at 1:04 pm

    this is awesome! thanks for sharing the bits on 2nd time around nursing. i’m currently nursing my first child who just turned 8 months, so it’s good to know that bf is still tricky (i was just wondering about that – i can’t even remember my baby being THAT SMALL, but i do remember him sucking HARD at first and my boobs being HUGE ROCKS almost constantly leaking), so i guess i’ll be prepared with my fav lactation consultant’s number in hand again! thank you so much for being real, woman! wita is a doll!

  • bokker

    July 27, 2010 at 1:12 pm

    I was surprised that feeding took so loooong. And that 3 hourly feeds means 3 hours from the START of the last feed, not the end. NOT FAIR!

    I was also surprised that having a new baby wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be, and that it was/is infinitely more wonderful than hard, on balance. That was a good surprise.
    .-= bokker´s last blog ..Pray silence =-.

  • Angella

    July 27, 2010 at 1:13 pm

    I’m thinking I need to start making my annual California trip a bi-annual one – I need to cuddle that sweet baby girl!

    Every morning when I wake up and see that you’ve played your turn in WWF, I smile. :)
    .-= Angella´s last blog ..Being A Tourist In My Hometown =-.

  • joslyn

    July 27, 2010 at 2:13 pm

    oooh yes to that last one. i regret not having sniffed the girlies’ heads enough.

    man she’s freakin cute lady.

    .-= joslyn´s last blog ..Loving =-.

  • Andrea

    July 27, 2010 at 2:46 pm

    ugh, thank you for your commentary on painful nipples. I had thought I had thrush b/c it almost felt like burning pain when latching. doc and lac consultants said everything is fine and just gave me a compound cream that helps somewhat.

    was so excited to see you were having a 2nd babe, too. I’ve been reading your blog since just after you had Wito when I had my boy and I just had my lil’ girl 3 months ago :) yay for girl clothes and girlie things!!

  • Carrie

    July 27, 2010 at 3:09 pm

    She is totally fantastically gorgeous and incredibly SMART. I can just tell.

    I don’t know much about breastfeeding and rock hard boobs and all that so tried to read lightly and not get too freaked out for if I ever have a kid. I don’t have boobs now, so am rather interested to see what could potentially happen…but not so interested that I want to have a child immediately.

    Enough about me. Back to you. So what’s up with Bethenny Frankel being 2lbs after having her kid? Girlfriend you know that ain’t right…

    So happy to read your post and get some giggles. Sense of humor still intact? Check Check!

    Enjoy your sweet girl! (and boy)

    .-= Carrie´s last blog ..Cleaning In Style- Alice Supply Co =-.

  • Mama Bub

    July 27, 2010 at 3:17 pm

    I had a conversation with someone who told me that her clothes were TOO BIG after a few months a breastfeeding and that she just couldn’t stop losing weight. That is not my problem.

    She is gorgeous!
    .-= Mama Bub´s last blog ..The Nursery =-.

  • Siera

    July 27, 2010 at 3:20 pm

    I can relate to most of what your saying. The newborn grunts and squeels OMG I don’t forget that. I couldn’t sleep because of that and had my son in his own room at a month. It was right across the hall, and I felt bad but I was going insane due to lack of sleep. Whoorlita is a cutie. Savor it.
    .-= Siera´s last blog ..Not At This Time =-.

  • am'ti b

    July 27, 2010 at 3:22 pm

    chest sleeping is still my favorite! boobs are great and in 4 months it won’t hurt as much.

  • Mary Sue

    July 27, 2010 at 3:37 pm

    Sorry the joy of the new babe also comes with some hard stuff – it will get better! If you ever want a new Words with Friends game, play me! msfordham

  • Gabriella

    July 27, 2010 at 5:04 pm

    Thank you for this list!! Having my 2nd in December and after 5 years in between I needed to read this for a reminder!!!
    She is a doll!

  • kat

    July 27, 2010 at 5:24 pm

    she is so freaking cute!
    .-= kat´s last blog ..a love letter to you =-.

  • Sarah

    July 27, 2010 at 5:35 pm

    Great list, and your girl is beautiful! Nursing moms should know about the cluster feed–those days where they nurse all day every hour or hour and a half. The cluster feed nearly sent me to the looney bin but after surviving I was very proud that I stuck with it and nearly ordered a “I Survived The Great Cluster Feed of 2010” t-shirt.
    .-= Sarah´s last blog ..Shootin’ The Shit =-.

  • Melissa

    July 27, 2010 at 5:50 pm

    Oh my gosh. If you want to play wwf, my name is melissac916. I have my own little one that gets me up!

  • Gabrielle - Design Mom

    July 27, 2010 at 7:21 pm

    Oh! You are brilliant. This is a great list. I laughed when I read “wince”. So true. A friend of mine once described the painful latch-on period as “curl-your-toes-painful”.

    Also. Little Wita couldn’t be more beautiful!
    .-= Gabrielle – Design Mom´s last blog ..Haircut =-.

  • HollyLynne

    July 27, 2010 at 8:56 pm

    I never once felt my letdown . . . still haven’t! And I was spared the awful engorgement you’ve experienced, but only because I didn’t have a full milk supply until Rhys was 3 1/2 weeks old. Now I just get engorged when he sleeps 8 hours at night, but we can’t have EVERYTHING, now can we? :)

    And thanks for the free pass on those 5lbs :)

    Malou is absolutely precious . . . huge eyes indeed!
    .-= HollyLynne´s last blog ..Baby Gets Around =-.

  • HollyLynne

    July 27, 2010 at 9:19 pm

    You also speak the truth about latching for those first few weeks. I hope it gets better for you . . . it did for me!
    .-= HollyLynne´s last blog ..Baby Gets Around =-.

  • Ninabi

    July 28, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    What a pretty baby she is! Oh, those big eyes- really, all four of you are such a photogenic family. Glad she is doing well and I hope there’s more sleep in your future!

  • Erika

    July 28, 2010 at 6:57 pm

    My nipples never stopped being sore until I stopped breastfeeding. Yeah, it sucked. Ha!

  • GirlsGoneChild

    July 28, 2010 at 10:06 pm

    OMG, I love her.

  • Nila

    July 28, 2010 at 11:21 pm

    I waited 10 years so everything surprised me. I felt like a first time mom again which was fun and frustrating.

    Thanks for the update. This lurker has missed you.

  • Rebecca

    July 29, 2010 at 12:01 pm

    She is beautiful!!
    Thanks for sharing :)

  • Ashley

    July 29, 2010 at 4:32 pm

    What a cutie! Happy 1 month Birthday
    .-= Ashley´s last blog ..The Night My World Caught Fire =-.

  • Janet

    July 30, 2010 at 5:13 am

    She is precious. God bless her! Glad you stopped by to give us an update but definitely sneak in a nap or two whenever you can…lol I have 2, 5 and almost 3. Each time, breastfeeding was painful in the beginning but eventually the discomfort subsided and I wound up nursing 15 months for my daughter and 9 months for my son. That said, when the pain was excruciating, which was usually in the beginning, I found that pumping helped alleviate the pain while the sores healed. Eventually, your breasts toughen up and in no time, you’re doing it without having to cringe. And yes, you can get them to nap at the same time, eventually. Now she’s napping like a kitten but once she’s down to a couple of naps a day, you can try to get them down at the same time. Oh yes, the newborn stage flies by so quickly. I loved it so much and miss having them so close to me. Now they answer back and I’m lucky if I can hold them down for a few seconds while I cover them in kisses!!!

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  • Kaki

    August 2, 2010 at 5:56 am

    Glad to know I’m not the only one playing on the iPhone while nursing. :) And I’m currently making my way through “Sex and the City” right now we’re midway through season 3. Thank goodness little C can’t understand what’s going on! Ah nursing…

  • The real L.A. love story.

    August 2, 2010 at 3:16 pm

    omg yes! i am breastfeeding and i HAVE to wear pads all of the time. i remember my first month and every hour i had to feed. so feeding took about twenty minutes, i had a little bit of time to myself, and then the baby would want to eat again. it was truly around the clock.
    .-= The real L.A. love story.´s last blog ..Introducing the beginningwell- sort of =-.

  • Amy

    August 3, 2010 at 10:51 pm

    Ok, I stopped at the first one to comment and say thank you thank you thank you for writing that your nipples will hurt at first even when the latch is great and you don’t have thrush!!!!! This is the advice I wish I had when everyone was saying the opposite and made my first couple months of breastfeeding miserable because everyone (lactation experts and even pediatrician) decided we had thrush. They even put my baby on meds and I was doing all kinds of crazy things to stop the thrush. Turns out we NEVER had it AND her latch was (is) perfect. I just had a strong let down that hurt.
    .-= Amy´s last blog ..Judge Not The Hotdog Lest Ye Be Judged =-.

  • gorillabuns

    August 4, 2010 at 3:25 am

    you forgot to add watching “Cheaters” at 2am while feeding becomes your steady.

    she is BEAUTIFUL! she looks just like her mama.:)