While we’re on the subject of videos, I totally spaced posting this video of an interview I did with Dr. Deborah Luftman. (Remember when I requested your rosacea questions in the comments? Well, she addressed many of them in this interview.) Take a look if you are interested in the subject!
(For those of you who are wondering, I have not tried Oracea for my rosacea, so I have no feedback on that medication.)
Well. You all are about the most lovely people ever. Thank you so much for your supportive comments this week. Really, you had such wonderful things to say, and I loved reading every single one of your achievements. We’ve got some serious superwomen in our midst.
As much as I want to leave that post up forever and ever amen, the show must go on. Remember my quick trip to New York? I was there to film some segments for The Thread, and here is the first one featuring spring fashion and beauty essentials. Just to give you a little background, part of my job at Style United (besides writing and vlogging) is to be the media spokesperson for the website, so my title can range from “Style United Beauty Blogger” to “P&G Beauty Expert” to “Her Ladyship.”
Okay, maybe I’ve been watching too much Downton Abbey. Sadly, the Ladyship title is out of reach, but in this case, “P&G Beauty Expert” was their choice. Uh, P&G Beauty Expert? I’ll take it. (Seriously, can I put that on my resume?)
The latter part of this video features me modeling some fashion essentials for spring, and let me just say, a sheer mini-dress almost sent me packing. You all, I do not wear miniskirts or mini-dresses. EVER. Never ever ever EVER. The only time I will wear a skirt that is clearly above my knee is in the winter when I can cover my legs with tights. (And that happens about once every two years.)
While I might appear cool as a cucumber during the fashion segment, the inner workings of my brain were all DEFCON 5 NAKED LEGS NAKED LEGS ABORT MISSION NAKED LEGS. I can’t really explain why I feel this way…some people are scared of heights or sharks or snakes, I just happen to be petrified of miniskirts. Not to mention that the dress was completely see-through, and the slip barely covered my derriere.
What can I say, I’m a puritan. Enjoy my naked legs!
Since it’s Valentine’s Day, I hope you will allow me to wax poetic on relationships for a bit.
I mentioned that one of my 2012 resolutions was to rid myself of toxic relationships. I wrote about disingenuous and pot-stirring ones, but what about the relationships that always seem to bring you down? The friendships in which you don’t feel comfortable sharing happy news for fear of the negative reaction coming your way? Whether it be blatant negativity or passive aggressive jabs, it seems that we all have people like this in our life. My question to you is, WHY are these people in our life?
My wise parents taught me at a very young age that these kind of interactions are rarely about the recipient. When I would come home from school, upset about a mean-spirited statement, they would always say, “It’s not about you, it’s about them.” There could be a myriad of reasons why a person would want to rain on your parade, but it’s very, very rarely about you. My parents have branded that into my psyche. Hurtful jabs really don’t have that much to do with you.
As I’ve grown up, I’ve always kept that in the back of my mind, but in a way, it has allowed me to make apologies for this behavior. “Oh, he/she didn’t mean it, they are just having a rough time, ” or “They are dealing with some deeply-rooted insecurities regarding the issue” are some things I tell myself when I’m the recipient of such jabs. But you know what? I shouldn’t be making excuses for it. Hurtful, mean-spirited comments from a “friend” are hurtful and mean-spirited. Period, end of story.
One of the most important gifts you could ever give is to “lift your friends higher.” When something wonderful is happening to a friend, I want to be their #1 supporter, and on the flip side, nothing makes me happier than to share good news with a friend who celebrates with me. I can’t get over how many smart, talented and beautiful women (and men!) I have the pleasure to call friends. It’s insane, really. So many people doing such amazing things with their lives, and I feel so grateful when I can be a personal witness.
So! I have a couple of things to ask of you. If you are dealing with this kind of negativity from a friend, ask yourself, “is it worth it?” If you are constantly pumping positivity into a relationship, but only receiving negativity in return, maybe it’s time to reevaluate. You guys, if I’ve learned anything over the past few years, it’s that today could be your last. We’re only here once. This is it. Make every day your best. Lift people higher.
(I truly don’t know where all this motivational speaker biznass is coming from, but let’s roll with it, peeps!)
Here’s the most important part. I think, due to the above-mentioned negative behavior, that many of us tend to keep quiet about our achievements. I can’t even tell you how many times, when asked about a recent accomplishment, I look down at my feet and kick imaginary dirt, muttering something about being lucky or “I don’t know how it happened.” Well, on this lovely Valentine’s day, let’s change that. I want to hear about an accomplishment that YOU are proud of achieving – no self-deprecation, no kicking the dirt, just straight up pride, folks. It could be anything from emptying the dishwasher three nights in a row to winning a Pulitzer. Professional or personal, whatever.
Here, I’ll start. Deep breath.
Hi, I’m Sarah and I am PROUD of the hard work and consistent focus that I have put into writing my blogs for the past seven years. I know that the amazing opportunities coming my way are not luck, but a direct reflection of that commitment and focus.
Damn, that felt good! Now, it’s your turn. Don’t be shy, you guys. Reading these comments will make my week!
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