Questions. Many Questions.

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We’re still unpacking, rearranging, cleaning, organizing and decorating, but it feels great to settle down a little bit.

In the meantime, I turned 7 months pregnant this weekend.

Whoorlita (is that what we are calling her? Whoorlito and Whoorlita? Wito and Wita?) is kicking like crazy, as well as making my hips feel like I’m an 80-year-old arthritic during the nights. Good thing I donated my maternity body pillow to Goodwill TWO WEEKS AGO. Seriously. How ridiculously stupid could I be? Ridiculously stupid, apparently.

Over the weekend, my extremely agile and handsome husband (forever indebted, D) put California Closets to shame when he turned the kids’ run-of-the-mill closet into a shelving haven. And it only took 13,000 trips back and forth from Ikea! Which means 13,000 ice cream cones!

If you have followed this blog over the years, you know nothing gives me more pleasure than organizing. I had a maniacal grin on my face for the entire duration of unpacking clothing bins and setting up this closet. (I even rearranged the clothing that will remain in the clothing bins for the next couple of years. By size. And season. FOR I AM AN ORGANIZING GODDESS.)

(Or crazy.)

Although the new place has 3 bedrooms, we’ve decided that the children will share a room. To be completely honest, I transitioned from OMG THAT COULD NEVER WORK to BEST! IDEA! EVER! in the span of 10 days. I’m truly super duper excited. Speaking of children sharing rooms, have you read this post by Rebecca? Beautiful.

I’m curious, though. How many of you have children that share rooms? Any words of wisdom? Obviously, Wita will be in our room for several months until she can make it through the night, but I’m excited for the day she and Wito can say goodnight to each other from across the room.

Which brings me to the next question…what should Wita sleep in for the first couple of months? Wito slept in his own crib in his own room at 2 weeks old, so we haven’t dealt with this issue before. We have a Moses basket, but frankly, I would really like something not so close to the floor. Should we assemble the crib in our room? (We have the Stokke Sleepi, so it’s pretty space-efficient.) Buy a bassinet? (I am so in love with the Cariboo Folding Bassinet, but not sure I can justify the cost for the short time being used.) You should know that sleeping in the same bed is not an option for us personally, although I have absolutely no problem with you doing it. Peace be with you!

You see? THE QUESTIONS. They burn. Please help.



COMMENTS (91)

Comments

  1. The Arms Reach Co-Sleeper (http://www.armsreach.com/ ) is awesome. We had the mini. It can stand alone like a bassinet, but is best attached to the adult bed. So convenient for breastfeeding! The baby is right there with you and you get all the benefits of co-sleeping but she has her own sleeping space.

    You look great!
    .-= birdie´s last blog ..Take it to the Limit… =-.

  2. I also got the cosleeper for our little man due in July. I got it used, off of CL, because I didn’t want to spend full price on an item used for a few months, either. I’ve heard nothing but good things about it so far!

    PS – what shelving is that from Ikea? I may need to make a trip…

    Hey Emily, it’s the Antonius and Hensvik shelving and brackets.

    http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/departments/bedroom/10398/

    .-= EmilysHollow´s last blog ..Another List =-.

  3. I have 4 kids. Two in one room, two in another. They all slept in a bassinet in our room for the first couple weeks/months. As for words of wisdom… I don’t really have any. We haven’t had too many problems with it.
    .-= heidi´s last blog ..My mind, in bullets so you don’t get lost =-.

  4. My two younger sisters shared a room from the minute they were big enough for bunkbeds. And when my parents bought a bigger house, they still wanted to share rooms- they got lonely. It may just be the jealousy talking, but they are still so much closer than I am to either of them.

    It worked until they became teenage girls and insisted that no one touch their things. I’d recommend being sure everyone has a space that is just for their own personal stuff and no one else is allowed to touch it.
    .-= Eleanor’s Trousers´s last blog ..Spring Cleaning =-.

  5. Mimi O. says:

    Bassinettes are great, but they really only last for a few months at the most. I might go ahead and set up her crib in your room if you suspect she will be in there for longer than three or so months.

    My boys share a room (they are 4 and 2) and they love, love, love it! I think it is a great bonding experience for siblings.

  6. As for sharing rooms, it can work out fine. My brother Luke is 8 years my junior, and we shared a room. I was especially impressed with his dexterity; he could wing an empty baby bottle and land it right on my head from across the room. I suppose there is the thing about sleep disruptions for one child or the other, but they would likely both adjust.

    I realize that my vote has less weight than those of your friends who actually have children, but that never stopped me from having an opinion before. I say, use the Stokke Sleepi until she is ready to move into her own room, that way the bed remains familiar even though she gets transitioned to another room.
    .-= Jessica´s last blog ..Details of My Awesomeness, in list form =-.

  7. We used the bassinet portion of the pack n play until he was four months old (AND NINETEEN POUNDS) and couldn’t sleep on it anymore without fear of BREAKING it so then he went to his room. That worked great for us. I thought about the co-sleeper but I wanted something we could use afterwards too, like the pack and play. But I know people who loved it so there’s that as well.

    YEAH FOR BABIES!
    .-= samantha jo campen´s last blog ..Considering a polygraph =-.

  8. We were given a bassinet a few weeks before our first was born and it was perfect and our baby ended up sleeping in it for six months! It had wheels and could be moved room to room for, ahem, adult time. It had a short shelf life, but is much smaller than a crib or pack-n-play … Was so worth it! We have it stored until next baby!!
    .-= Manda´s last blog ..The new sheriff in town =-.

  9. I’m pregnant with our first child, but we are planning to just use a pack-n-play in our bedroom at first, then moving it into our second bedroom (our office). We live in a 2-bedroom apt, so it saves us space not to have a crib at all… Hopefully by the time he outgrows the pack-n-play, we’ll have a living arrangement that accomodates a big-kid bed by that point. We have a lot of friends in similar space-issue apartments who have been able to have this work well. :)

  10. I have the Cariboo, and although it is pur-ty, I don’t like the fact that you have to stand up to check on the baby (I compulsively check to see if the baby is breathing….I know, coo-coo). The mini co-sleeper is nice b/c you can look right in and even touch her….. Or use the crib you have — I hear great things about it and then you don’t have to buy something that will get used for just a couple of months!

    I love the idea of kids sharing room, BTW!
    .-= jora´s last blog ..Inspired By Soulemama…. =-.

  11. I actually got the Cariboo Folding Bassinet and LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVED it. Did I say love? We have a two story home and we could take it downstairs during the day and upstairs at night during his itty bitty stage. My kiddo was/is not a good sleeper and so he stayed in our room til about 4 months. We also got the changing pad attachment and would use that as a our downstairs changing area. After he stopped using the bassinet to sleep in, we just kept it downstairs for changing him for a good while–you know until he became a super duper flip flopping machine. Anyway, I highly recommend it. And it’s easy on the eyes too…

    Woohoo! POINTS FOR CARIBOO!

  12. No insight here, but at some point our kids are going to share a room. Once I can figure out a design style that works for both genders I’ll be really excited.

    My sister and I shared a room off and on throughout our childhood and even though she was a total pest and got into my stuff I was actually sad when we moved into a house that allowed for us to have our own rooms.

    Looking great, I can’t believe you’ve only got a few more months!

  13. Oh we have been there. At 8 months the boys started sharing a room and I thought I was bidding my sanity goodbye, but they LOVED it.
    Brighton started sneaking into Levi’s crib to sleep with him. NOT something we advocated, but really sweet :) Proof: http://www.flickr.com/photos/minismith/2485878889/in/set-72157605015839304/

    Now at ages 3 and almost 5, they refuse to sleep in their separate twin beds, ALWAYS opting for curling up in a twin together. I think it’s worth the initial upheaval for the bonding that happens. Nights are such a hard time for kids and to have each other is really special.

    That’s the most precious photo I’ve ever seen!

  14. The Co-sleeper is the BEST:)
    .-= MO´s last blog ..Cool kid =-.

  15. Sunshine says:

    My son and daughter started sharing a room a little over a year ago (they were 3 and 1 at the time). We all still think it was the best idea ever.

  16. Oh just dump out the contents of your dresser drawer and shove her in there. That should work fine.

    My mom did that with me. Just don’t forget she’s in there and close the drawer. I still have nightmares of being buried alive.

    OMG HAHAHAHAAAAAAA. I mean, I’m sorry for your nightmares. ;)

  17. I don’t know what they’re called but there are those babybeds that are designed to stand right next to a normal bed… they look like
    this.
    .-= san´s last blog ..Happy Easter (Bread)! =-.

  18. My son slept amazingly well in the Arms Reach Mini co-sleeper for 4 months. It was the best sleep either of us had, totally spoiling a new mama and he’s now 21 months. It was small and portable (it had wheels). I’d nurse him, lay him back in it and he’s sleep. It was heaven.

    After he outgrew it however we have failed to find something he will consent to sleep in alone. So we have been bed-sharing since then, which was not my intent.

  19. We did a bassinet in our room for the first couple of months with Leah. Cam slept w/us (he was a co-sleeping kid until 5…yeah, FIVE!) and Leah had her own room for 2 years of her life (lucky girl!).

    But now, Cameron and Leah share a room – I just transitioned Leah into a twin so now they are both in twins, within arms reach and yes, they say “good night bro-bro” and “goodnight Lili” before they go off to night night land.

    It’s the sweetest ever!

    I’m in the process of redoing their room right now since we got rid of the crib. We’re going for beach bungalow/surf style (of course ;) )

    It’s way more fun than I thought it would be and the kids LOVE sharing a room!

    I bet you will do the room fantastically – can’t wait to see it!

    And you look marvelous, woman! Makes me want to be pregnant again (so not gonna happen!)
    .-= Sarah, Ohana Mama´s last blog ..Easter, Maui style =-.

  20. Chicco pack & play w/ the bassinet in the top! The bassinet is very comfortable & of course you can use the pack & play for many uses afterwards. If you already have one, you could take it to your parents house so they have an extra one for travelling.

  21. I liked sharing a room with my sister when I was a kid…until I didn’t. I think it lasted until I was six or seven. :-)
    .-= sizzle´s last blog ..Bet On It =-.

  22. I mean, I’m nowhere close to being a mom, but the whole “Peace be with you!” bit at the end about co-sleeping made me laugh out loud.

    Also, I can’t wait to see how adorably dressed and coifed Wita is sure to be.

  23. This might be my first time commenting though I have worshipped the ground you walk on since you shared how to curl hair on Hair Thursdays (I believe) with a straightening iron. No jokes, I did a whole post on my love for that post. It changed the life of my frizzy curly hair as I know it.

    ANYHOW. We just had our 2nd babe (a girl as well) 3 months ago and I would suggest NOT buying anything until she arrives. I know as a lover of all things organized (I am one as well) you are thinking “CRAZY WOMAN. HOW DARE YOU SUGGEST SUCH A HORRIFYING THOUGHT!” but the thing is we had a bassinette that my mom kept from when I was born and though both kids used it – it was for such a short time on both counts. 6 weeks for our son and 4 days for our daughter. I vote you use your Moses basket for the first little bit and if it just isn’t working you this post would indicate that you could have a backup (The Stokke Sleepi)that you can send set up right away.

    I only suggest this because we also are NOT co-sleepers. And yet, my recovery from my c-section was such that getting up (even to the bassinette) quickly to a crying baby at night was not easy so for the first 4 weeks she stayed in bed with us. GASP! I was more shocked than anyone about it because it was something other people were more than willing to do, but it was NOT FOR ME! All that to say that things could easily not be the same with Wita as they were with Wito so you might want to hold off on making big new purchase until she’s here.

    Also, I think the idea of the kids sharing a room is great – even though ours don’t. I shared a room with my little brother growing up and I LOVED it. The good and the bad. My hubby was an only child though so he doesn’t get it and figured since we had the room the kids could have their own. Pros and cons to both.

    What fun to be planning all of this! Enjoy! Oh, and the closets? MARVELOUS!

    Point well taken! Thank you, Nicole.

  24. My kids kind of share a room, and there is an 11 year age gap between them (older is a girl, younger is a boy). They have sliding doors between their spaces that can be opened or closed, and they each have their own doorway to the hall.

    There is nothing cuter than when they leave the doors open at night, and in the morning, all you hear from the toddler is Hi! Hi! HI HI HI! because he is SO EXCITED that he can SEE HIS SISTER!!!

  25. This is a terrible suggestion expensewise but I loved the bassinet function of our Bugaboo stroller for both kids. I parked it right next to the bed, then sort of inched it further and further away as they got older, before eventually transitioning them to their room.

    Also, with Dylan I had NO desire to cosleep and yet for several weeks he ended up on our bed propped in a Boppy pillow, which of course is hideously dangerous and I’m surprised he lived and I do not recommend such a course of action.

    DUDE. I didn’t even think about our Bugaboo. Thank you!

    .-= Sundry´s last blog ..Peptalking out loud =-.

  26. This is what we opted for (although of course we don’t know how it’ll work out yet!)

    http://www.amazon.com/DaVinci-Futura-Cradle-in-Espresso/dp/B000OP795A/ref=br_it_dp_o?ie=UTF8&coliid=IEBVIWLSHEO7P&colid=1FCCEA8666TRV

    We chose it because it looks nice in our bedroom and isn’t made of plastic or painted in pastel colors. We even got black sheets for it (from Sheetworld.com)
    .-= HollyLynne´s last blog ..Beanself =-.

  27. We just had our daughter Christmas Eve and friends were kind enough to lend us their Mini Arms Reach Co-Sleeper.

    LOVED IT. We used it up until about a week ago because my baby is a giantess and very wiggly and keep getting herself wedged sideways at night and so I’ve moved my cradle that I kept downstairs up to our bedroom and retired the Co-Sleeper.

    The cradle is nice and oh so pretty but I liked the fact that the co-sleeper could be right up against the bed and I could just scoop her up, feed her and put her back without getting up.

    If you have a moses basket you can buy a stand for it. My girlfriend used one and she had a stand that she’d put it in at night.
    .-= Amanda´s last blog ..Bits. =-.

  28. We’re planning to have our boys share a room when the baby is older… Andrew is 5 months old and sleeping through the night, but that’s because he has his own room. There’s no way he could fall asleep with our almost-4-year old Oliver’s LOUD bedtime shenanigans. Maybe after the baby’s first birthday? We’ll see.

    I don’t have any advice on what the baby should sleep in, since both my boys refused everything but their cribs. We put Andrew’s crib together in our own room and he slept there for 10 weeks BUT that was only because my mother-in-law stayed with us during that time. (Yes. I know. SCENARIO PLEASE TO AVOID. Unless your mother-in-law is really really awesome.) Otherwise we would have moved him into his own room after a month or so, because a) the crib took up too much room in our room, and b) my husband CANNOT be quiet when getting ready in the morning (is that a guy thing?) and always woke up the baby (and me) unnecessarily.

    I’m sure your baby girl will make her own preferences known too. :)

    Also: You look incredible. If I could look like that while pregnant, I’d have 6 more kids. Or at least one more.
    .-= Melissa´s last blog ..losing it: update #3 =-.

  29. We have enough bedrooms as, but the boys share a room. The baby has a nursery, but his older brothers have cleared the spot for his bed when he outgrows the crib. It’s so much fun for them – and cute!

    (Plus, it simplifies bedtime for Mama and Papa.)

    We have Matthias in an Arm’s Reach, but it was a gift. If I were you I’d use a Graco Pack and play with a bassinet. Then you can take it with you when you travel, or when Wita needs floor time and to be protected somewhat from big bro.

  30. Okay. Here’s my beef with the Arms Reach Co-Sleeper. While I totally agree that it is the easiest, most comfortable arrangement to have your baby right there next to you (especially for breast-feeding and C-section recovery), I’m afraid that the baby will get so used to sleeping next to me that she will never transition into her crib. Like EVER. And then I will die 1,000 deaths.

    (God, I sound like such a tyrant.)

  31. We had a bassinet and found it to be a waste of money (used for a short time, and most are kind of rickety feeling). If you have room just put the crib in your bedroom for the first couple months. Since you already have the Moses basket you could put that inside the crib for a more cozy feel for Wita.

  32. I shared a room with my sister for years and really loved it. When space got too tight (and personalities too independent) in middle school, we could still say “goodnight” through the heating vents in my room and hers.

    That made me grin, Kerr.

    .-= Kerri Anne´s last blog ..Remembering =-.

  33. My two girls ages 4 and 5 share a room….they love it and we love it. We had the baby in a crib in our room for about 6 months, I felt I had to get her really sleeping before I moved her in with her sister. In the end they really don’t wake each other up, they just get to used the noise :)

    Good luck!

  34. First of all – thank you for the link and the kind words. Babes sharing a room is the greatest thing ever. Pretty sure Archer and Fable will share for years to come. They love love LOVE being close.

    Second – I’m all for the bassinet – because, like you said, it isn’t attached to the bed. (Fable slept with us in our bed because I couldn’t handle not having her close BUT that backfired and it took months to get her to sleep on her own.) With Archer, he slept in the bassinet in our room (several feet away) and slept great. Don’t remember what kind of bassinet it was – just a standard one from Babies R Us I think?

    Good luck!!! I’m so excited for you! The big brother/baby sister thing is… just… well… yeah.

    xo
    .-= GirlsGoneChild´s last blog ..42/100 =-.

  35. Michelle says:

    So happy for you, Whoorl! Hey, what about Li-Li emphasising the (li) in Whoorlita, or Lita? Congrats on everything!

  36. The Bugaboo idea rocks. But if you don’t already have a pack n play, it’s really, really time to bite that bullet. Our house wasn’t done when Audrey was born (thank you William Lyon) so she slept in our room in our apartment for the first couple of months. The bassinet part of the pack and play, while ugly, is really, really functional. And, there weren’t any crib transitioning issues, other than the typical, I just learned how to roll over, why would I want to stay asleep stuff.

    We’re doing separate rooms for now, but once baby brother is a little bigger, who knows. My sister and I went back and forth from sharing to not sharing. I just knew that if I didn’t task those two rooms as bedrooms, the kids would never get me to give up an office space…

  37. I hope I don’t get blasted for this…but we had a co-sleeper for our first and it just wasn’t a great fit for us. He had a really, REALLY hard time adjusting to being away from my warmth and smell and it was a battle for 10 months to get him into his own crib. But I KNOW that all babies are different and that was just our experience. With our second, we opted for a moses basket on a stand (so we could move it around easily). I could still see him while he slept, but there was more separation (his own sheets, blankets, smells, warmth). Just wanted to toss our experience into the mix.

    And BTW, you look gorgeous for 7 months. Gorgeous for any time, but especially 7 months pregnant :)
    .-= Amy Smith´s last blog ..the mystery of female friendships [1] =-.

  38. First things first – you look amazing! Second, the closets and organization skillz are very impressive. Third, I have no advice really but I do have fond memories of sharing a room with my brother when I was itty bitty. Here was the scene: me: Strawberry Shortcake sheets him: Sesame Street sheets that he called Snuf-fuck-up-olous sheets…(oops but hehe). We would wake up in the middle of the night and read books by flashlight to each other. Renegades we were.

    Books by flashlight rule.

  39. First things first: You’re just about the cutest pregnant woman ever. I seriously looked like a deformed torpedo at 7 months. I’m feeling a blend of warm fuzzies and extreme jealousy for you right now.

    Second, I’m totally with the pro-bassinet people. A borrowed one, preferably, because babies outgrow them so fast. A crib in your room will take up too much space, and you’ll be forever stubbing toes on it and cursing.

    I also love the idea of them sharing a room — they’ll never feel alone! Plus kids have a way of taking over a house… the more adult space you maintain, the happier you’ll be!

    Congrats on finally settling into your new abode!

  40. our cariboo folding bass..is in cambridge, do you want it?

  41. ps i did not love it-that is why i did not hold on to it like everything else….

  42. The dudes have been sharing a room for years and it was the best thing we ever did. Before then, they seemed to tag team us and get up at night “needing a cuddle”. Now, we only hear from them in the night if they get up to pee.

    Emily’s in her own room and so far, she’s pretty happy with her girly room.
    .-= Angella´s last blog ..Scenes From A Weekend =-.

  43. i wouldn’t listen to any of my advice given my track record other than, my girls love sharing a room. The other bedroom is a full out playroom. It seems to help a bit with all the crap they can’t seem to part with daily.

    Yes, it is crucial to get most of the toys out of Wito’s reach at night – otherwise, he just plays with them all night. IN THE PITCH DARK.

    .-= gorillabuns´s last blog ..b-u-n-n-y, b-u-n-n-y….. =-.

  44. I’m with Nicole. I RARELY co-slept with my daughter mainly b/c I was too nervous, but when I had my son 17 months later I was just too exhausted. We had a small pack and play/bassinet that we borrowed set up next to the bed, but Z spent a lot of time in bed with us so I didn’t have to get up to feed him (although my husband was far too nervous about the whole thing). Avery and Zachary share a room now and it is fine. They never wake each other up which was one of my concerns and it wasn’t that difficult to transition him out of our room (although now he is a big mama’s boy so maybe there is something there).

    ps. you look FANtastic!

  45. Just get a cool pack n play or bassinet or pnp/basinett combo and put it in your room – you’ll get lots of use out of it!
    And it’s bigger then the arms reach
    .-= Sarah, Ohana Mama´s last blog ..Easter, Maui style =-.

  46. Little boy and girl sharing a room is no biggie. Although I wouldn’t recommend it further down the road – could get a bit awkward lol.
    .-= Jammer´s last blog ..Just one of the reasons why I love Easter =-.

  47. PS – I’ve NEVER seen a pregnant women with hair that looks as amazing as yours does in that photo. Heck, I can’t even get my hair to look that good and I have no adult responsibilites lol. Major kudos.
    .-= Jammer´s last blog ..Just one of the reasons why I love Easter =-.

  48. Why oh why did you give away your pillow so soon? That thing was my savior in the last few weeks…and the first few weeks after birth. You need a new one maybe ;)

    I used a pack in play for the first few weeks and then transitioned to a crib. I, like you, was scared that the co-sleeper would create co-sleeping habits and although that is for lots of people, it was not for me. I have seen friends use the Bugaboo too.Whatever option you pick, it will work out great!!

    Because I AM A DOUCHEBAG. ;) I’m carrying pretty small again and figured eh, I don’t need that gigantic thing. MY GOD I WAS SO WRONG.

  49. Carla Hinkle says:

    I have used the Graco Travel Lite crib as a bassinet for all of my 3 kids. It is basically a mini-pack n play. It has a bassinet function that you can take off and have the baby sleep in the bottom, like a regular pack n play, when the baby gets bigger. One thing I really love about it for a smaller house is that it wheels around, through doorways, etc very easily, which the regular pack n play can’t do. It is also smaller and lighter than the regular pack n play if you need to travel with the baby until 4 months or so. And I love that it is so sturdy, I don’t worry about the big kids bugging the baby, I feel like he’s safe in there.

    As for sharing rooms … my older 2 (girls ages 6 and 3) have shared since the younger one was 4 months old. We never had any issues. We put off some sleep training stuff for a few months with the younger because I was afraid of waking up the older, who is a champion sleeper … but when we finally bit the bullet and let the little one cry, the older never even budged, she slept straight through. So I guess that was a worry for nothing.

    Love to hear that! I’m nervous about the whole one waking the other one up thing.

  50. OMG, you don’t even look 7 months preggo! You’re still so tiny! I only say this because my sister is also 7 months along and she’s a lot bigger. Like she’s carrying twins! :)

    My niece and nephew share a room. He’ll be 8 this week and she’s 4 1/2. They love it. They’ve transitioned to bunk beds and it works well for them. I think they love being able to talk to each other and have someone else in the room. It’s so cute!

    I will preface this with the fact I don’t have a kid and know nothing about babies, but my sister was looking at this as an option:

    http://www.fisher-price.com/fp.aspx?st=2002&e=product&pid=51903&ncat=thumbnail&pcat=bgpy
    .-= Kristabella´s last blog ..Ding Dong Lent Is Over =-.

  51. I used the Arm’s Reach co sleeper for both kids (boy & a girl, sharing a room), and they transitioned to the crib just fine. Maybe the reason is that I used it like a bassinet — I didn’t attach it to my bed, since I never managed to do the nursing-while-lying-down thing. I liked having the baby right next to me when he (and she) were nursing all night long, but we never had any problems with a transition. We moved them to their cribs at around 3 months, so maybe that was early enough not to cause a problem? Also, those damn babies have personalities of their own and will confound you in ways you couldn’t have imagined, as you know. Our kids have loved sharing a room — they clearly draw a lot of comfort from each other. Good luck!
    .-= Hilary´s last blog ..In the moment =-.

  52. The “(Or crazy.)” is the reason we’re friends. It’s two word asides like this that make me lovvvve you so.

    Also, yes, closet organizing a new place is the best. And I am counting down the days until I can see yours in the flesh and you, mine!!

    Miss you, senorita xoxox

  53. We have a son and a daughter and they were both in their own cribs in their own rooms from day 2 (because day 1 was at the hospital). I nursed both of them for 10 months, but had a comfy chair in their rooms to do that. I just knew if that if I had them in our room I’d be awakened by every little stir they made, so even if they fell back asleep, I’d be awake that whole time wondering if I was going to have to get up. We just used the monitor with the volume set low enough we couldn’t hear stirring, just the fussing and crying. We never did the co-sleeping thing for the same reason, plus I just don’t sleep well with people touching me. And sleep is a hot commodity, especially when they are getting you up several times a night.

  54. Stephanie says:

    I have three children — now an 11 year old boy, a 10 year old girl and a 7 year old girl. We have two bedrooms for the three of them. We’ve had the oldest two share and now the two girls share. There are struggles and negotiations of course. But one of the sweetest things happened recently. The youngest had a bad dream in the middle of the night — but instead of calling out for me, she just crawled in bed with her older sister. She was comforted and the older sister felt special that she could help out.

  55. Our daughter slept in our room in her crib for the first 9 months. I liked it because: 1) short trips in the night on those few occasions she’d get up and 2) I could assuage my paranoia that she was going to somehow fall out of the crib. Or levitate. Or something.

    Also, I shared a bedroom with my sister for 18 years. I think it made me more amenable in college and after with roommates. Also less shy about peeing when people were in the same bathroom. But that’s probably more than you needed to know.

  56. Jennifer R says:

    My boy is 8 months old right now, while he has his own room with his own crib, until he moved into there at three or soish months, he was in a bassinet. It was given to us by friends so it was FREE! He was right there if needed. Then we just transitioned him over. Which was easy…we just, well uh, put him in the crib and he slept. LOL. I go with bassinet to begin with.

    Also, go buy another pillow

  57. Oh my goodness, that post you linked to made me want a kid (no, TWO kids)! I have no great advice, though I will say that I started kenneling my pug and my lab together when I leave the house, and they LOVE sharing a crate. They’ve totally bonded- it’s really precious.

    BTW your baby bump is too cute.
    .-= Trinity(of haiku tofu)´s last blog ..Mezze Night! =-.

  58. We used our bugaboo bassinet. We bought a stand for it (made by jolly jumper i think?) which made it like a cradle (i.e. it rocked)…this worked for the first 2-3 mos.

    You look amazing!! I am 15 wks and I think I’m bigger than you are!!

  59. Found it!
    http://comfortfirst.com/p-42879-the-rocking-bassinetmoses-basket-stand-by-jolly-jumper.aspx

    this holds the bugaboo bassinet perfectly :) We loved ours and will hopefully be using it again in 5ish mos!

  60. My girls have shared a room since the youngest (now almost 4) was born. Actually, the little one spent the first month or so in a pack n play (with a co-sleeper/nest thing in it) in the office-oops. Strangely, neither has ever woken the other up with screaming, sickness, potty training, etc. I love hearing them giggle in the morning and often find them snuggling in each other’s beds. Great luck, it will work out fine.
    .-= elz´s last blog ..Being an Adult is Hard -#156 =-.

  61. We used the Arm’s Reach Mini too. The only problem we faced with transitioning was me being a paranoid freak when we moved him to his bed around 4 months because we have a freak baby that was sitting up at that point. He had zero issues with the move to his crib. I absolutely loved it for the little space it took and the fact that I could be half asleep, breast feed, and pop him back in there without getting up.

    It’s a crime to look that hot at 7 months. Especially with your second! Seriously, I might have to hate you now.
    .-= Michelle´s last blog ..Senioritis =-.

  62. Jessica says:

    Just a quick unrelated question-where’d you get that blue rug in the pic of you? It’s cool.

    http://www.hdbuttercup.com/designers/stark-carpet/

  63. I love the room sharing topic. When we had our second he slept in an alcove off our master bedroom until he was only waking once a night, then he moved in with his two year old big sis. They shared that room until we bought a bigger house a year later, when they were one and three, because of course they each needed their own room and our two bedroom house wouldn’t cut it. HA! They spent every night together in one room or another so we finally gave in and moved both beds into the larger bedroom and made the smaller bedroom into a toy room.

    That lasted until my daughter turned seven and decided she needed her ‘pribacy’, which broke her little brother’s heart. So we moved his bed back into his room.

    Do they have their own bedrooms? Technically, yes. But they have sleepovers in each other’s rooms.

    They’re nine and seven now and sleep in the same room more nights than not.

  64. I think the Bugaboo idea was a good one!

  65. am'ti b says:

    so a few shout outs for the arms reach…… you can put up the sides and even though the picture makes the child appear to be level with you she will not be. you don’t have to put it next to you you can place it away but still see my yet to be born niece. this is my beef with the cariboo. put it on d’s side and have him hand her to you-that way he is “part” of the breast feeding moments-heeheeheee!

  66. my twins share a room & it has been great for them at night time. granted, they stay up & talk a bit, but it’s well worth it.
    .-= mommymae´s last blog ..epiphanie bag crazy-awesome contest – updated with video =-.

  67. tera Stephens says:

    Could u please get fatter? You aren’t nearly fat enough for 7 months pregnant!!!
    My vote is no co-sleeping, eventually you get your mojo back and you don’t want an infant between you and D and I have no input on the room sharing.

  68. First time commenter, totally love you and F. Fekkai’s hair cream has changed my life. I don’t think anyone has said this so far, so I hope I’m not repeating anything. My two boys (4 and 2) have shared a room since the second one was born. Two words: SOUND MACHINE!! I cannot tell you how helpful it has been. The room is somewhat small and they were not on the same schedule for about the first year, so the baby was usually asleep first. My older son and I could talk and the baby would never wake up. I’m sure you probably have one already, but I cannot overstate what a lifesaver ours has been while having room-sharers. It really is wonderfully sweet to see them in the crib together after naptime. They have so much fun. Sorry for such a long comment!

  69. No, you can’t be 7 months pregnant. I’m pretty sure I look more pregnant than you (I’m not pregnant).

    We set up the crib in our room. Right now our 3 month old is sleeping in it, in our room, and I plan to keep her in there for about another 3 months. I figure for 6 months it’s worth the work.

    Right now our 3 boys all have their own rooms, but our 2 and 4 year old will share when our baby moves out of our room. Our oldest boys shared a room starting when they were 2 and 3 and they did fine. They usually woke up at the same time in the morning, which was kind of a bummer, but it wasn’t really that big of a deal. My 4 year old is super excited to be sharing with my 2 year old soon!

  70. i have NO idea. sorry!

    but i had to just say that you look absolutely LOVELY.
    .-= kat´s last blog ..GPOYW =-.

  71. It’s an infant. It’s helpless, it needs to be near you in the night. Having your baby sleep in your bed or in a co-sleeper does not mean your child will be in high school still unable to sleep without mommy! If you want a successful breastfeeding relationship, your child needs to be close. Forming a secure bond with your baby fosters independence, because she will know that you are there when she needs you – not left to cry alone and hungry in another room.

  72. We ended up co-sleeping a bit with our second because he was the worst sleeper in the world… Actually I think he’s just unbelievably social and refused to be alone. He didn’t start sleeping through the night until he was19 months old and we heard him calling for his brother at night – moved them into the same room and phew! No more night time waking! It does sometimes mean they wake each other in the morning, but only if it’s almost waking time, else they are happy to go back to sleep and they don’t wake each other in the middle of the night if one of them is up. I think it’s brought them closer together and I’m thrilled… However my plans for the third bedroom (sewing room) have been derailed… it’s now my husband’s junk room.
    .-= trish´s last blog ..concentration =-.

  73. We also used the bassinet in the pack and play. That seemed to work the best and it’s not a waste of money since you use them for so much. I loved our Chicco Pack and Play since it seemed to have a sturdier and more cushiony bassinet mattress than anything else out there.

  74. For the baby~I’ve seen it done where the parents put an actual twin size bed right next to one side of the bed and from there mama can come and go in the night and then when baby is ready, baby can do the climbing.
    Happy last couple of months! And sorry about the pillow. I did the same thing myself…

  75. shit woman! you look how i looked when i was 4 months pregnant! YOU ARE TINY.

    many heartfelt congrats!

  76. Lyndsay says:

    My nieces share a room (3-year age difference) and they love it. Now they cannot sleep without one another. It’s pretty cute.

  77. We put our moses basket in the stand that newMOM linked too. It worked out great until our nearly 10 pounder outgrew it (that only took a month or so.) The he was in his crib.

  78. Co-Sleeper. All the way. that way, they aren’t in your bed, but they are in an extension of your bed, because you can make it so that the co-sleeper is at the level of your bed. It’s awesome! They are god awful ugly, but I always recommend them to my friends that are new moms or have never used them!

  79. If someone would promise me I’d look as cute as you at 7 months pregnant, I wouldn’t fear it nearly so much!!
    .-= Mrs. Smith´s last blog ..Best (and Worst) of Menu Monday. =-.

  80. A friend of mine used a rocking cradle next to her bed-from Target I think. it was bed height so she could just reach over and get the baby.

  81. I want to be an organization goddess! I do try! Ahhh. Adorable closets though.

    I have to ask, why did you get rid of the body pillow at this point of your pregnancy?! Silly!
    .-= Rose´s last blog ..Tonight… =-.

  82. Heather says:

    this has gotten good reviews…and only $50.

    http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3739296

    Fisher-Price Newborn Rock & Play Sleeper

    i also love organizing, especially baby clothes

  83. I vote Wita. And you are hot.
    .-= Aimee Greeblemonkey´s last blog ..April Greeblemix Winners! =-.

  84. For some reason I thought this baby was going to be Whoorlina, and you could call her Lina. I don’t know why I thought that.

  85. First off, you look awesome for seven months! My girls share a room even though we have two other empty ones. Couldn’t imagine them not although did have a nursery when the youngest was a baby.

    Good luck! Oh yeah, and I used the bugaboo.

    Sadie at heyMamas
    .-= heyMamas´s last blog ..Amazing =-.

  86. I nursed my youngest until he was 12 months, so he was in our room in a bassinet for two months, then a pack and play. He woke up at least once or twice a night until I quit breastfeeding, so I knew if we tried putting him with his big brother neither of them would sleep well. We had a few rough nights at first, as the oldest found it to be such a novelty to have a playmate with him. Eventually they adjusted really well and even though they have their own rooms now, they get very excited when we go out of town and they share a room/bed. I think it’s a great thing for kids to experience.

  87. We only have 2 bedrooms and two children. My son is 10 1/2 months and my daughter is almost 3. My sons been in our room in a crib since he was born. We attempted to move my daughter into the room and ourselves out into the small room. It was terrible. My daughter is at the age where she wants to go potty after shes been put to bed, and then a drink of water, and then sings and talks herself to sleep, many times on the floor by the bottom of her door. My son is in bed before her so we quietly took her to bed and she came out once to pee, then was running around the room or something and woke him up, first he was all chatty and happy then i went in and told her to go to bed and he cried and cried and she just sat up in her bed. (we have a video monitor) After alot of crying I very quickly just gave in and like a maniac starting moving beds back, etc. Were just gonna wait till hes older. Im dying for my own room back. Well…….thats my 2 kids in a room experience. :)

  88. Have you seen these bassinets made out of cardboard? http://babystyle.com.au/2008/01/cardboard-bassinet.html

    I haven’t used one, but they look cool and are inexpensive.

  89. My son was 2 yrs, 8 mo old when my daughter was born. We planned on them sharing a room, but kept her in our room until she was sleeping through the night (unfortunately that took 9 months). We used a bassinet first, then a crib when she got bigger. My son really liked having her in his room and we’ve never had any problems with them sharing. They’re now 3 and 5, and still like sharing. The two beds makes it a bit crowded, but we’ll transition to bunk beds sometime soon.

    Only piece of advice I would have is to make sure they’re both on the same bedtime (when the baby is old enough). It makes it easier because they have the company, and also because they see the other one going to bed also. The only problem we’ve had has only come up in the last few months — they will NOT stop talking. Bedtime is 8, but some nights they’re still talking at 9. We’re still working on that one….

    Good luck and congratulations!

  90. We have also used a Moses Basket for the first few months with both of our girls. I have loved it and used this stand with it: http://www.babyongrand.com/jollyjumper/rockingmosesbasketstand

    I don’t know if you have one, but it gets the Moses Basket off the ground, rocks – if the baby is fussy… I could reach over and just gently rock it in the night if I needed too. It worked perfect for us!

  91. We have a 10 day old, and absolutely LOVE our in bed co-sleeper! Makes night time feeding a breeze.
    http://www.toysrus.ca/product/index.jsp?productId=2689253
    Hope that helps!
    .-= Kait´s last blog ..Day 104 =-.

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