Parenting Confessional – Part 2

It’s Friday, which means it’s time to make a few more confessions.

1. I go back and forth daily over whether or not we should have another child.

2. I spread peanut butter and jelly all the way to the very edges of the crusts, knowing that Wito won’t eat them and I can feast on his soggy leftovers. I am so gross.

3. Resourceful as I am, I have no freaking clue how to potty train my child. Do you teach boys to potty sitting down or standing up? SOMEONE TELL ME.

4. I think half-day preschools that charge $8,000/year are totally ridiculous. For that kind of money, my child better be reciting the periodic table in French while cooking me an omelette.

  • Camels & Chocolate

    May 15, 2009 at 1:34 pm

    I just ate a PBJ, too. Because I’m clearly three, as well.

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  • Shari

    May 15, 2009 at 1:39 pm

    Teach him sitting down, definitely. That’s how I did it with twin boys. They even make potty seats that have a little… eh-hem… splash guard for the little man plumbing. The key is to get him going on the toliet… he’ll have the rest of his life to pee standing up, and all over the floor, like the big guys do. :0)

  • Brooke

    May 15, 2009 at 1:42 pm

    Sitting down. That’s how we did it. Once he got the hang of that (and got tall enough so that it wasn’t a balancing act on a step-stool) we then taught him to ‘pee-pee like daddy’. Great fun.

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  • sizzle

    May 15, 2009 at 1:42 pm

    Finn learned by sitting down. That’s about the extent of my potty training knowledge.

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  • Stacy

    May 15, 2009 at 1:44 pm

    Sitting down until he masters #1 AND #2 :-) Best of luck!!!

    p.s. it’s a riot when they actually start standing up. They look so darn little next to the toilet!

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  • Nicole

    May 15, 2009 at 1:47 pm

    Sitting down. Thats how you do it and thats what hes used to seening most of the time. When they get taller, they can stand. Get a little seat thingy with a guard because that little bugger can spray…you, his pants, the wall…all whilst sitting.

  • Joel

    May 15, 2009 at 1:58 pm

    1. It took 2 yrs for me to come around to that idea.
    2. I cook extra nuggets for the 2yo eventhough she won’t eat them.
    3. Sitting down.
    4. We pay $19k each for full day. It’d be the same even if they only went half a day. I’m looking forward to the raise I’ll get sending them to private grade school. I might buy a Corvette with the savings.

  • hi kooky

    May 15, 2009 at 2:14 pm

    Sitting down. We were very patient (lazy), and waited until the boys became interested in potty training at about 3.5 years of age. I didn’t mind dealing with pull-ups, etc., and I didn’t want a battle. The whole process took 48 hours from start to finish. Good luck!

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  • deb

    May 15, 2009 at 2:27 pm

    I’m such a jerk that all I thought was “pre-school is only $8K? Hot damn, we’re moving to Cali!” because apparently in NYC $30K is the going rate. People tell you this after you’ve already done gotten knocked up, and then snerk a little in schadenfreude.

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  • Calee

    May 15, 2009 at 2:48 pm

    Um yeah.

    1. Audrey’s 6 months younger and I get all pittery when I hear someone is pregnant yet I can’t imagine doing it again.
    2. I just ate her leftover cheeseburger that I originally made knowing that there is no way she’ll eat hamburger, even if she asks for it
    3. Sit!
    4. I know we’re not NYC but seriously, think what we could buy with that preschool tuition….

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  • whoorl

    May 15, 2009 at 3:01 pm

    But what if he wants to stand up? Yesterday, while I was making dinner, he walked into the bathroom, removed his diaper and tried to pee into the toilet standing up. Of course, it got everywhere, but I think he wants to go to the bathroom like his daddy. (I have to admit, it was darling.) Will he get confused now if I tell him he needs to sit?

  • Miguelina

    May 15, 2009 at 3:10 pm

    My four year old goes back and forth. Sometimes he sits, sometimes he stands. Sitting down is easier because at first there wasn’t much for him to hold on to. Just make sure he really leans into the toilet when he stands, and give him a bit of paper to “wipe” the seat once he’s done. That’ll get him working on his aim ;)

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  • She Likes Purple

    May 15, 2009 at 3:26 pm

    Granted mine is only three-months-old, but I constantly go back and forth about wanting another one myself (in a few years).

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  • sunny

    May 15, 2009 at 3:38 pm

    dunno … 650 a month on a school or preschool I love might be worth it. Teachers are often seriously under paid (in my opinion).

  • Backpacking Dad

    May 15, 2009 at 4:23 pm

    “I spread peanut butter and jelly all the way to the very edges of the crusts,”
    —I’m right there with you. It’s an art.

    “knowing that Wito won’t eat them”
    —well, okay. Not your usual kind of reason for adding extra pb&j to something, but I’m still with you. Maybe you cut off the crusts to eat yourself, and I totally get that.

    “and I can feast on his soggy leftovers.”
    —-wait. what?

    “I am so gross.”
    —-I think honesty is hot. But yes, that’s gross. As gross as letting my snot-faced daughter kiss me on the mouth. But I do that every day. So who’s going to judge?

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  • annie

    May 15, 2009 at 4:26 pm

    Far be it from me (she who reads your blog always and comments never) to tell you what to do, but the kid thing? NO BRAINER. You two clearly make beautiful children. Bringing another to the mix would be a lovely addition.

    As for the pbj – doesn’t EVERYONE do that? I mean seriously. Crusts were made for mommies. PBJ….grilled cheese….french toast….someone’s got to eat them, right?

    We’re potty training sitting down. It’s just more practical right now. Later on, when he’s ready, we’ll introduce the standing up. But placing the potty on the floor in front of the TV so he can watch Caillou while he waits for the peepee to come out is what’s working for us….and less chance of him running away. Or missing.

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  • Stephanie

    May 15, 2009 at 4:34 pm

    Number one is on my mind all the time too. As far as potty training boys I’m so at a loss! I have a son who may very well be content to wear diapers until first grade…college? Who knows. I thought sitting down too, but all the little boys at pre-school stand. He seems a little more interested in standing (like Dad). That’s enough potty talk for one day for me! And the preschool charges are a big adjustment!

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  • lera

    May 15, 2009 at 4:50 pm

    I have potty-trained 4 boys (and 1 girl), all sitting down. In June I will train my youngest son, sitting down. You never know if something might come out the back by mistake. Better in the toilet than on the floor (or dropping into their underpants).

    And don’t use Pull-Ups unless you have to leave the house. Children don’t like the sensation of wet underwear or pee running down their legs. Pull-Ups feel like diapers and they are used to that feeling.

    Just my two cents, but I’ve been quite successful all 5 times so far.

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  • Chris

    May 15, 2009 at 5:56 pm

    My son didn’t learn how to use the potty until age 3.5. Pure stubbornness on his part. We taught him to pee standing up – he was older/taller, he wanted to be like Daddy, and the kids at preschool were all standing up. Put Cheerios in the toilet for him to “aim” at. Seriously! It totally worked for us!

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  • Julie

    May 15, 2009 at 6:00 pm

    #4 – Amen, Sister!

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  • Mel

    May 15, 2009 at 6:04 pm

    I do that with PB&J too, but I cut the crusts off before giving the rest to my kids :) Potty training my boy sitting down (most potties/seats come with a splashguard for boys), and paying $10k/yr for 3 full-days/wk preschool :(

  • Mel

    May 15, 2009 at 6:07 pm

    Just saw your own comment that Wito wants to stand… I think that’s fine too… toss a cheerio in there so he has something to aim at.

  • Angella

    May 15, 2009 at 6:30 pm

    Emily has butter on her toast and I eat the crusts. And I’m proud.

    We’re trying to teach the boys to pee sitting down (SO MUCH CLEANER) (Also, JUST LIKE THEIR DADDY) (BUT YOU DIDN’T HEAR IT FROM ME)

    And, yes, I have started drinking…you convinced me ;)

  • Vanessa

    May 15, 2009 at 7:17 pm

    No potty training experience whatsoever but I have a 2 1/2 year old so these comments are great. My husband wants him to learn standing up so he bought this: http://www.peterpotty.com/
    We haven’t started using it so I have no idea if it will be worth it or not, just thought I would share!

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  • Alexa

    May 15, 2009 at 8:00 pm

    Sitting down for starters.. our son tries to stand like daddy now on his own.. he will be 3.5 next month I started training @ 3….Bjorn Potty is good with the splash guard for sure. I also tried the new Fisher Pr. frog potty, it is designed well.

  • dawn

    May 15, 2009 at 8:18 pm

    If he wants to stand, let him stand. Dunk the cheerios. Put drops of blue food coloring in the water (yellow and blue make green!). YOU DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO TO POTTY TRAIN A CHILD.

    And buy the Method Flushable Wipes because for boys at any age, the toilet is merely a suggestion on where to aim. Trust me.

  • Miss Virginia

    May 15, 2009 at 11:54 pm

    I agree w/ Dawn! After potty training 3 (2 girls and 1 boy)…it only works when they finally decide they want to do it. so if he wants to do it standing up. go for it! if he’s into it, embrace it, whatever it is. and most of all: GOOD LUCK! get the disposable method toilet wipes…they pee everywhere.

  • tera Stephens

    May 16, 2009 at 1:03 am

    sit his ass down, u don’t need another thing to clean!!

  • tera Stephens

    May 16, 2009 at 1:04 am

    ps- who cares what preschool costs, your free time is priceless!!!

  • metalia

    May 16, 2009 at 7:01 pm

    I may be in the minority here, but Alex sat while potty training for ONE DAY. Literally. Then he wanted to stand “like Daddy,” and his aim so far has been spot-on, so it’s fine. However Wito wants to do it, just go with it. :)

    And, like Deb, I would like to move to California post haste, because I should not be paying well into the five digits for motherfucking preschool. (Ahem. I have some rage issues with regard to this, evidently.)

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  • glamgranola

    May 17, 2009 at 12:06 pm

    We did standing up! SItting down caused way more random sprays. I know many people who use aiming tools like Cheerios or Fruit Loops.

    We are waiting one more year to send Harper to preschool. Two kids at Montessori would break us, literally.

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  • Suniverse

    May 17, 2009 at 1:11 pm

    I just watched Nursery University, and it gave me the heebie jeebies. I know looking at elementary school for my kid was in the $20K range, and I could not have been happier that we moved to the most boring suburb ever for the great school system.

    As to preK, we did co-op, which was cheap and AWESOME. I think if you get a great teacher who loves kids, it all flows from there.

    Good luck finding something!

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  • mommymae

    May 17, 2009 at 6:48 pm

    i have 4 kids and want another one every time i see an infant or pregnant woman, but i’m done. my wee baby jamison is the last at 9 months and i think she tops it off nicely for us.

    ours turned 3 in april & he sits down, unless he’s outside, where he happily pees standing up. my guy tried to stand a couple of times and made a mess & didn’t like it, so he went back to sitting. if he wants to stand you could try to have him aim at cheerios (or some such) in the toilet. i think wito is smart enough that know that he gets to choose either way.

    and HOLY SHIT $8000!! for half a day!! crooks, i say. we’re taking a year off this next year. i only pay $2400 at our lovely temple preschool, but it’s still $2400 more for us.

    love the new pretty page, btw!

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  • Jessica

    May 17, 2009 at 6:59 pm

    I knew a kiddo who learned to pee sitting down, and when he wanted to stand up, the mom and dad got him a little step stool so he could reach. He then finished with a flourish by somersaulting down the stepstool.

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  • Andrea

    May 17, 2009 at 9:20 pm

    For sure sitting down. It’s going to be a gross enough mess to clean up. Besides, he won’t know the difference. Also, I eat PB and J multiple times a week. Not because I feed to it my kid, but because it is delicious.

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  • kalle

    May 18, 2009 at 6:36 am

    i have heard of people putting cheerios in the toilet for the little boys to aim for, in hopes of cutting down on the mess.

  • sarah

    May 18, 2009 at 7:07 am

    when it comes to potty train, keep an open mind and be willing to try anything, though you shouldn’t take me advice, we are still trying to potty train, but our problem, we are never home long enough to work on it. $8,000 for preschool, good grief, the private elementary school i would love to send my kids to is 8,000 a year and it is full day, everyday.

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  • Clara

    May 18, 2009 at 8:07 am

    I read a lot and don’t comment much, but I just had to say I am SO with you on #1. Every single day.

  • Amanda

    May 18, 2009 at 8:15 am

    Re: #3: Do it sitting down… because… (ick)… very often he’ll be sitting down trying to do *one* thing, and he’ll do the *other* thing… If you follow. So anytime you can reward him for something (anything) landing in the potty, he’ll be encouraged to keep trying. Naturally he wants to stand up like his dad, but of course his dad does do *one* thing sitting down (RIGHT??) so just reinforce that notion. That’s how we’re attacking it, anyway…

  • Kristabella

    May 18, 2009 at 8:24 am

    Whenever I babysit my niece and nephew, I purposely make them things for dinner/lunch that I can eat the leftovers of. Including the crusts of grilled cheese and PB&J. Also, Kraft Mac & Cheese, because I won’t buy it for myself.

    No wonder I gained like 10 pounds when I lived with them.

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  • Amanda Brown

    May 18, 2009 at 9:26 am

    Potty training is a no-go ’round these parts too. I was fine about it when she was just two, but now that three is looming I am starting to feel ashamed of her crap-filled diapers.

    PS: I have given up on forcing vegetables into Avelyn too. She and Wito could have so much fun together: no broccoli, and the freedom to fill their shorts whenever the urge hits. :)

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  • Lorna

    May 18, 2009 at 9:50 am

    We did sitting down facing the back of the toilet – helped reduce the mess. Also (this is very redneck-y but we live in Oklahoma) I let him pee outside off the back porch.

  • Jane

    May 19, 2009 at 10:19 pm

    1. If Wito is a determined stander-upperer perhaps he could use one of these: http://www.weeman.com.au/. Am contemplating one for our little boy -my only problem is, what about all the other toilets in the world without a weeman?

    2. For heaven’s sake, make yourself a whole peanut butter and jam sandwich, and just enjoy it!

  • Kim

    May 20, 2009 at 10:52 am

    I am 5 months pregnant and still think about whether I should have a third!! I hope someday that questions isn’t lingering in my mind. Well, I guess eventually it will be as my DH is very excited about getting snipped! As a school teacher, I would never recommend having an only child. JMO

  • anonymous

    May 20, 2009 at 12:13 pm

    Hey, regarding whether or not to have another child, I would respond with an easy (and enthusiastic) “YES!” I am one of nine children and being born into a big family is one of the best things that ever happened to me.

    Everyone thinks that having a lot of kids is so overwhelming, but the thing is when the kids get older they help with the little kids. It taught me a lot about responsibility and dealing with people. My mom isn’t superwoman, but she is very happy and I am so grateful to her and my dad for being open to life. If they followed the normal 2-3 kids thing I wouldn’t be here! (I’m #4). And my parents have plenty of love to go around, too. It’s not like we were short-changed of our parents attention and affection. With more people around there is always someone to talk to and life is so much more interesting. There is nothing greater in the world than bringing a child into the world. Okay, that’s just my opinion…but think about it. When they are old and gray I never hear people say “I wish I would’ve had fewer kids.” It’s usually, “I wish I would’ve had more kids.” I know I want to have a lot of kids. I know a lot of other families that do and it is totally possible, realistic, and fulfilling. I can promise you that 40 years from now you will be so glad you did. Best wishes!

  • gorillabuns

    May 22, 2009 at 9:29 am

    ummm…. my 4 yr old still shits her pants on occassion.

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  • Ariadne Rooney

    May 24, 2009 at 1:35 pm

    Yeah. I can only tell you what NOT to do. I tried to teach my son to pee in the toilet by throwing a handful of cheerios in it and letting him “sink” them. It worked GREAT –


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