Sweet baby Thalon. The fair, red-headed boy amidst the sea of princess tiaras and Barbie dolls. The perfect representation of Gorillabuns’ Irish roots. Rich’s future partner-in-crime.

Thalon passed away yesterday afternoon surrounded by his adoring family.

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention wanting to punch the universe in the mouth right now. Really hard.

For those of you who have had the pleasure of meeting Shana in real life, you know she is quite the Mama Bear. Long before she birthed her three beautiful children, she was the kind of friend that would fight dragons tooth and nail for you. Fiercely protective. Loyal. She might even throw a Cape Cod in the face of your nemesis. You know, the kind of person you always want on your side.

However, behind that boisterous Mama Bear exterior lies the most enormous, the most feeling heart you could ever encounter. In all honesty, she’s a total sap.

I distinctly remember shortly after Moira’s birth, beached out on her couch with my own pregnant belly, talking about what an independent spirit her firstborn was. “Little Miss Thing (as she would call Celia) sure isn’t into the whole cuddling and hugging bit”. I remember nodding, thinking that Celia was a smart little girl because, well, touchy-feely people are STRANGE. Just at that moment, Celia sauntered over to Shana and gave her a huge bear hug, and as I looked over at my favorite fierce Mama Bear, I saw tears welling up in her eyes.

I remember hoping I could be a mother like that one day. One who cares so deeply about her babies that the simple act of a day-to-day hug could fill them with so much love that the tears flow.

I can’t begin to fathom what Shana, Rich and the girls are going through right now. To be honest, I won’t even allow myself to envision losing my child. What I do know is that they need all the positive thoughts and prayers that you can give them right now. Shana is so thankful for all of your love and concern – it has lifted her spirits tremendously.

I’ve been trying to think of what I can do right now, 1,400 miles away, to help before heading to Oklahoma. I’ve set up a Paypal donation button for anyone who wants to help Shana’s family with the expenses of Thalon’s hospital stay and funeral services. Please feel free to use the button on your website to help spread the word.

Donations would be greatly appreciated, but your thoughts and prayers are just as welcome.

  • Ceece

    April 13, 2009 at 7:41 am

    what the heck happened?

  • nic

    April 13, 2009 at 7:42 am

    this is such a beautiful tribute, and i am so unbelievably sorry for your loss… their loss… everyone’s loss.

  • Kristabella

    April 13, 2009 at 7:44 am

    This was a beautiful post for your friend. My heart is aching for Shana and her family. I will be thinking and praying for them and donating to help them through this hard time.

    No one should have to bury their child.

  • andrea

    April 13, 2009 at 7:46 am

    Thank you so much for doing this, Whoorl. We’ll encourage everyone we know to help out this dear family and to keep Thalons memory alive.

  • Camels & Chocolate

    April 13, 2009 at 7:47 am

    I cannot even believe all that is going on right now…Maddie, Thalon…these poor, poor families. Great post. I hope they feel all the love and support on the Internet.

  • daysgoby

    April 13, 2009 at 7:47 am

    My heart hurts for your friend and her family.

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  • SAJ

    April 13, 2009 at 7:49 am

    I can’t think of anything to say but to add that I’m praying too. If only all this love and support could make him come back.

  • Lesha

    April 13, 2009 at 7:49 am

    This is just unimaginable.
    It just rocks your confidence in life to the core. How can a child go from healthy to this in an instance. It makes me want to never leave my child’s side.

  • Geminigirl

    April 13, 2009 at 7:51 am

    sweet baby boy…

    I am so so sorry for your loss. No parent should ever have to experience that. Sending you love and hugs and prayers….

  • sam {temptingmama}

    April 13, 2009 at 7:51 am

    I am completely gutted. Why is this happening!? *sob*

  • Isabel

    April 13, 2009 at 7:53 am

    I want to punch the universe too.

  • ali

    April 13, 2009 at 7:55 am

    i am broken into more pieces than i thought possible today. my heart goes out to Shana and her whole family.

  • HollowSquirrel

    April 13, 2009 at 7:55 am

    Their loss is unfathomable. I’m so sorry for their and your loss. I’m so so sorry.

  • Angella

    April 13, 2009 at 7:55 am

    I’ll do what I can to spread the word. This is just not fair.

  • Marinka

    April 13, 2009 at 7:56 am

    So unfair. So heartbreaking. My thoughts are with Shana and her family.

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  • veep veep

    April 13, 2009 at 7:59 am

    so very awful

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  • Caroline

    April 13, 2009 at 8:01 am

    Oh no. My heart breaks for this family. What a horrible, unbearable loss. Please pass on my deepest deepest condolences.

  • Carrisa

    April 13, 2009 at 8:02 am

    Thank you so much for doing this. My heart is so broken for her.

  • Nothing But Bonfires

    April 13, 2009 at 8:05 am

    Oh NO. NO NO NO. I was thinking about this all weekend and hoping against hope that everything would be okay. It feels like a punch in the gut to know this happened. Poor, poor Shana. I cannot even imagine.

  • katie ~ motherbumper

    April 13, 2009 at 8:06 am

    So sad, so unfair, and such a huge loss. I’m so sorry and my thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family.

  • Metalia

    April 13, 2009 at 8:08 am

    This is such a beautiful tribute, Sarah. I’m sitting here reading it through my tears. My heart breaks for Shana and her family.

  • Jora

    April 13, 2009 at 8:12 am

    My heart, too, is broken over Baby Thalon.

  • Angela

    April 13, 2009 at 8:12 am

    Such beautiful words to describe such a fabulous woman. My heart has now officially broken. Thoughts and prayers. Thoughts and prayers. Lots of tears.

  • Manda

    April 13, 2009 at 8:21 am

    I hate this so much. My prayers are with Shana and her family.

  • BeachMama

    April 13, 2009 at 8:26 am

    Oh Whoorl, take my Prayers with you to OK. I have been praying for sweet Thalon and cannot even imagine the pain Shana and her family is going through. Your tribute is beautiful.

  • Mandee

    April 13, 2009 at 8:26 am

    Thanks for keeping us informed. The universe is most definitely on a roll. I got a call from my mom on Saturday afternoon that one of her best friends and a second mother to me was found dead in her bed on Saturday morning. I am a little comforted to know that a fabulous mother has joined these precious babies, but that only takes me so far.

    Lots of love and prayers for all those who loved sweet Thalon.

  • punchlinewalking

    April 13, 2009 at 8:28 am

    Thanks for setting up the paypal…I’m going to link it on my page too.

  • Half Assed Kitchen

    April 13, 2009 at 8:28 am

    Sending my thoughts to that family. I cannot even imagine their loss.

  • Nic

    April 13, 2009 at 8:29 am

    This is a lovely tribute to your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family.

  • a madhouse wife

    April 13, 2009 at 8:30 am

    Thanks for the info and the opportunity to make a donation, Whoorl. My heart is just aching for them.

  • sizzle

    April 13, 2009 at 8:35 am

    I’m glad you set up the pay pal account. I have wanted to something, anything for her and the family. I’ll add this to my blog so more people can know.

    Please hug her extra hard for me.


    April 13, 2009 at 8:35 am

    This is a beautiful tribute – I just adore Shana and whatever was left of my heart is shattered even further.

  • Marin

    April 13, 2009 at 8:37 am

    What is going on? Why are all these things happening…please take my prayers with you when you go to Oklahoma.

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  • Cynthia

    April 13, 2009 at 8:41 am

    Is there anyway to set up the paypal account so it will take donations form people who are not in the US? This is the first time I have not been able to send US funds to a US account from my Canadian paypal account.

    You should be able to do it now. Thank you so much for your donation. :)

  • mp

    April 13, 2009 at 8:43 am

    Beautiful tribute..you are a great friend.

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  • GirlsGoneChild

    April 13, 2009 at 8:44 am

    So very incredibly sorry. Am sending prayers and strength to you and Shana and her family. Love.

  • Slouching Mom

    April 13, 2009 at 8:44 am

    This is just awful. Donation made.

  • Danielle-lee

    April 13, 2009 at 8:45 am

    I don’t even know her and her family, but am hurting. This month sucks! They will be in my prayers.

  • Kerri Anne

    April 13, 2009 at 8:48 am

    Thank you again, Sar. This was so beautifully said.

    I can’t even wrap my brain around all of this, it’s just so overwhelmingly heartbreaking. I wish we could all group hug around Shana and her family right now, but hopefully she’ll be able to feel all the love we’re sending from here. Big hugs to you, too.

  • Jenny, bloggess

    April 13, 2009 at 8:50 am

    Shocked. Too much horror this month. My love and prayers to her and her family.

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    April 13, 2009 at 8:54 am

    There are no words. Wishing I could give Shana a real hug instead of a virtual one.

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  • Lala

    April 13, 2009 at 9:09 am

    Thank you for that peek into their lives. I have only just found her site and was trying to understand what was going on. I am heartbroken at this tragic loss, everytime I look at my baby my heart hurts for her family.

  • Mysh

    April 13, 2009 at 9:10 am

    This news is so shocking and overwhelmingly sad. Thank you for posting the PayPal account information.

  • Stephanie

    April 13, 2009 at 9:13 am

    I am so sorry to hear this awful news. Such a precious lfe lost.
    My heart cries out.


  • Cynthia

    April 13, 2009 at 9:15 am

    Thank you – international donations are accepted now. My heart just aches for the family. I cannot fathom the pain they must be in, and to be further haunted by the considerable expenses? There are just now words.

  • monstergirlee

    April 13, 2009 at 9:19 am

    I’ve been praying all weekend – and now this. More prayers for Shana and her family. My heart aches…..

  • Phil

    April 13, 2009 at 9:19 am

    God Bless. I am a child therapist and see tough times everyday. It never gets easier. Hang in there, seek support.

  • amy

    April 13, 2009 at 9:22 am

    my god- the world has not been right in the last week. Two babies taken. I am sick over this. Prayers right now from Ohio. right now.

  • Colleen

    April 13, 2009 at 9:23 am

    Hearbreakingly sad. Thank you for the opportunity to help this family in some small way. (Sarah, you’re a class act.)

  • maggie, dammit

    April 13, 2009 at 9:42 am


    I don’t even know what to say.

    Gutted is the perfect word.

  • Rhonda Squires

    April 13, 2009 at 9:44 am

    God bless your sweet and beautiful soul Thalon. I am a friend of Sarah James. I am thinking of Thalon. I am thinking of you. I don’t know the right words. God bless you and God bless Thalon.

  • Christy

    April 13, 2009 at 9:56 am

    My god, the world just isn’t right lately. Today is the first I’ve heard of gorillabuns, but as a mom, of course my heart goes out to her and her family. I will absolutely do what I can. I’m so, so sorry.

  • Rebecca (Bearca)

    April 13, 2009 at 9:59 am

    It’s so, so sad. I am heartbroken about all this loss. They are lucky to have you as a friend, though – that was a really touching post.

  • Mary Helen

    April 13, 2009 at 10:03 am

    I can’t believe another mom has lost her sweet baby. Wishing peace and strength to the family.

  • slynnro

    April 13, 2009 at 10:04 am

    I was able to meet Shana and Thalon at Susan’s Quaker party, and I remember be so struck by how in love with him his big sister was. In fact, I kind of can’t stop thinking about it. I’ve never seen a prouder sibling.

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  • Howard

    April 13, 2009 at 10:32 am

    My heart is broken for them. Nothing can remove the pain – I send my love to Thalon’s spirit and his family – we look for explanation and answers to such sadness but ultimately I think our collective pain and heartbreak is our only genuine response. I didn’t know Thalon but I have known others who have lost their young children so suddenly – I hope in time Thalon’s family have the chance to share their loss with others who have had the same tragic experience. They are not alone. My Love. H.

  • T@SendChocolate

    April 13, 2009 at 10:33 am

    this. just. sucks. I agree with punching the Universe right now.

    Everything is screwed up.

    My heart goes out to this family, who is suffering a pain none should ever have to.


  • Chicky Chicky Baby

    April 13, 2009 at 10:47 am

    There are no words, just sending them strength and love. I’m very sorry for your loss and for theirs.

  • Mandy

    April 13, 2009 at 10:49 am

    My heart aches. Deepest sympathies.

  • Swistle

    April 13, 2009 at 11:03 am

    Oh no. Oh no.

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  • Lara

    April 13, 2009 at 11:08 am

    Whoorlie-girl, this is beautifully written and just perfect all around for such an awful, horrible, terrible thing. My heart goes out to this family and to everyone who knows them in person.

  • Aimee Greeblemonkey

    April 13, 2009 at 11:13 am

    Sarah, I seriously can’t believe this. Please tell Shana we are all thinking of her.

  • mihow

    April 13, 2009 at 11:17 am

    I am without words but feel I need to say/write something. I am so very sorry for Shana’s loss. I really have no idea what to say or think anymore…

  • kim s.

    April 13, 2009 at 11:43 am

    Thank you for writing about Shana and her family. She is a great friend and my heart breaks for her. So many friends and I have been wanting to do something but didn’t know what to do. Thank you for setting up the fund for Thalon!

  • Auds at Barking Mad

    April 13, 2009 at 11:45 am

    There just are no words. None.

    My heart aches the ache of a mother who has buried a child, for Rich and Shana. I didn’t think, after hearing the news of Maddie, that I could cry any more tears. Then I read the news about Thalon this morning and the tears started anew.

    Please know that my heart and prayers go out to Rich and Shana, Celia and Moira. I’ll keep them lifted in thought and prayer as long as they need it.

  • TexasRed

    April 13, 2009 at 11:48 am

    Tragic! I am linking to your post to give people more information.

  • cindy w

    April 13, 2009 at 12:33 pm

    I made a small donation. I don’t know Shana and hadn’t heard of her blog before this past weekend (when people on Twitter started sending around prayer requests), but this is so, so sad. If something like this happened to us, I can only hope that strangers would be so kind as to help us out too.

  • jodifur

    April 13, 2009 at 1:49 pm

    just gave. It’s just too much.

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  • Nicole

    April 13, 2009 at 3:45 pm

    I just cant wrap my mind around this. I will pray for their family.

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  • Amy

    April 13, 2009 at 7:16 pm

    i just got chills. makes me sick to my stomach. you are a good friend whoorl.

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  • Nenette

    April 14, 2009 at 5:28 am

    So much sadness. My heart breaks for Shana and her family. I will keep them in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Leah

    April 14, 2009 at 11:01 am

    Unbelievable. Let us all hug our babies extra for Thalon and Shana.

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  • Vanessa

    April 14, 2009 at 2:18 pm

    My heart breaks for them. I will be praying for Shana, her husband and girls.

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  • Tammy and Parker

    April 15, 2009 at 11:02 am

    I’m thinking perhaps you are the amazing kind of friend here as well.

    Such a precious life lost. My heart aches in unison with the rest.

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  • libbey

    April 16, 2009 at 4:58 am

    for shana

    my thoughts are with you.

    whatever you feel, however you react, whatever you say and when whenever you say it, it’s right. go with it. wise woman gave me the same advice when my infant daughter died. it helped. it’s been a long time now – and she is with me. never forgotten. your son will be remembered and loved – always.

    sending support from a stranger in ohio who cares.


  • Major Bedhead

    April 16, 2009 at 5:14 am

    Sam said it perfectly – I’m gutted. I’m so, so angry about all this senseless loss. It doesn’t make any sense and it makes me want to rage.

    I’ll add Thalon’s donation button under Maddie’s. And then I’m going to go have a cry and hug my kids again.

  • Jenn

    April 16, 2009 at 12:27 pm

    My heart breaks for this family. I very much want to punch the Universe. Hard. So much loss lately. I just don’t have the words for something so tragic.

  • Crabmommy

    April 16, 2009 at 12:33 pm

    This is absolutely awful, just awful. Those poor, poor people.

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  • Mommy Mishie

    April 18, 2009 at 8:46 pm

    I was horrified to read Shana’s post about finding Thalon – have been haunted ever since by the thought of going through that. My Mommy-Heart is just smashed to pieces this month. May Shana and her family find some peace in their memories at some point, and may they know they are not alone.

  • Janice (5 Minutes for Mom)

    April 20, 2009 at 4:46 pm

    I have just been ripped apart by what Shana and her family must be feeling. The sheer agony. It is brutal!

    Thank you for your beautiful thoughts. I didn’t know Shana or her blog before this happened and I am just now hearing about the mother she was.

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  • noelle

    June 22, 2009 at 10:03 pm

    Hi, I’d like to add the Love for Thalon button to my blog and facebook account, how can I get the code? Also, is the PayPal account still open to accept donations? Based on Shana’s most recent post I think we should re-mobilize donation efforts. Please email me if you’d like to brainstorm. Thanks so much! Noelle